I'm so sad when I argue with someone that I get depressed for a period!!!

Graziepapi

Member
Good evening to everyone!Yesterday I argued with a friend and we started to discussing about stupid things..today he didn't call me and I didn't call him and now I'm getting depressed.It happens whenever I have an argue with someone and I need to get along with everyone to avoid these kind of situations.Sometimes people offend me or say me a lot of bad things but I try to overcome all without argue..I know that it is not the right attitude to solve the problem.I know that in this way people get benefits from me that sometimes they don't deserve..but,what is it better for us?Fighting and get depressed after or try to get along with these people?Please help me to solve this enigma with your advises!Good night!:)
 

FountainandFairfax

in a VAN down by the RIVER
I suspect that a lot of us around here are just naturally agreeable people.

Whenever I fight with someone, or even just assert myself, I feel bad... to the point that I try to avoid both things at all costs. It's depressing, and makes me feel like I can't win, since letting people get over on me doesn't feel good either.

The best I've ever done is to just say screw it and get super sarcastic with people. That way I kind of trick my brain, I'm saying the things I need to say to people, but the phony, civil tone helps fool my mind into thinking it's just polite, door-mat business as usual. Then I remove myself physically from the situation and laugh it off... literally. I physically laugh to get it out of my system emotionally.

I'm not saying it's mature, or even healthy, but it's a trick that helps me when I absolutely have to make a stand with people.
 

lily

Well-known member
Good evening to everyone!Yesterday I argued with a friend and we started to discussing about stupid things..today he didn't call me and I didn't call him and now I'm getting depressed.It happens whenever I have an argue with someone and I need to get along with everyone to avoid these kind of situations.Sometimes people offend me or say me a lot of bad things but I try to overcome all without argue..I know that it is not the right attitude to solve the problem.I know that in this way people get benefits from me that sometimes they don't deserve..but,what is it better for us?Fighting and get depressed after or try to get along with these people?Please help me to solve this enigma with your advises!Good night!:)
try not to argue but to tell them the problem. in your situation i don't know who's wrong but those tips are good. you should never not tell anyone about a problem that's bothering you. that's what friends are for. if a friend never contacts you after that then they're not a good friend. after that you can sort out the issue and wherever that leads you that's the way. I'm a christian and i always tell everyone who has done something wrong to me that i forgive them and then i leave it at that.
could it be that people never call you back b/c you're too sensitive and those things that offend you shouldn't and they don't have anything to say? do you mind telling what are the things that offended you or the bad things told to you? thanks and cheers!
 

lily

Well-known member
i probably will not get a reply back anymore, hope you're ok or is it b/c you didn't understand what i wrote? it's ok
 
I had a massive & violent argument with my dad about a month ago. I didn't just get depressed, i got suicidal (& even attempted suicide!) :eek:
 

lilly354

Active member
I do this as well. I feel like when I and another person aren't on the same page, I have done something wrong. There are other times when I say the wrong thing and don't realize it till after then just feel absolutely horrible over it. I find it best to be okay with yourself. When something comes up where you argue with someone, only admit you are in the wrong if you truly are.
 
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