What i mean to say is, I'm getting worried that in an effort to stay positive through all things, I'm really just covering a wound instead of treating it.
Since growing up a bit from being a sullen and moody teenager who always focused on the negatives, I've always tried to never linger on negative things by focusing on the positives, or when that's not possible, blocking that out of my mind and focusing on something else entirely. There are some negatives that I've always ended up drifting to though, and these are usually the things I've done wrong in my life, things that happened that I'm embarrassed or ashamed of, typically when I'm trying to get to sleep or other times I'm left alone with my thoughts. I've always tried to turn this someway into my advantage, by reminding myself that if i keep remembering all these things I've done wrong, then I can be sure I'll never do them again, so i guess in some way, I've perpetuated this myself, but I've been willing to do it for the sake of being a better person to all the people in my life.
But now, since I've started having SA, I'm starting to think that maybe this determination to never focus on the negatives in an effort to appear happier, is stopping me from seeing what's really causing my issues, or maybe my constant self-punishment in my mind over things i've done wrong has brought this about, or maybe both, or maybe neither, i really don't know what the problem is, and that's the point in this thread i guess. I know neither sound exactly healthy, but the truth is i feel it's because of these things that I became the person that I was genuinely happy to be (until the SA anyway) and so I was willing to keep going like this.
I don't really know what I expect to get out of this, I was just hoping to have some idea of the problem in my head I could work towards fixing before I started CBT sometime next month
Since growing up a bit from being a sullen and moody teenager who always focused on the negatives, I've always tried to never linger on negative things by focusing on the positives, or when that's not possible, blocking that out of my mind and focusing on something else entirely. There are some negatives that I've always ended up drifting to though, and these are usually the things I've done wrong in my life, things that happened that I'm embarrassed or ashamed of, typically when I'm trying to get to sleep or other times I'm left alone with my thoughts. I've always tried to turn this someway into my advantage, by reminding myself that if i keep remembering all these things I've done wrong, then I can be sure I'll never do them again, so i guess in some way, I've perpetuated this myself, but I've been willing to do it for the sake of being a better person to all the people in my life.
But now, since I've started having SA, I'm starting to think that maybe this determination to never focus on the negatives in an effort to appear happier, is stopping me from seeing what's really causing my issues, or maybe my constant self-punishment in my mind over things i've done wrong has brought this about, or maybe both, or maybe neither, i really don't know what the problem is, and that's the point in this thread i guess. I know neither sound exactly healthy, but the truth is i feel it's because of these things that I became the person that I was genuinely happy to be (until the SA anyway) and so I was willing to keep going like this.
I don't really know what I expect to get out of this, I was just hoping to have some idea of the problem in my head I could work towards fixing before I started CBT sometime next month