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That's exactly what I told my gudance counseler. I don't enjoy life at all. She told me I have an Anxiety disorder. All I ever do is worry about anything there is to, school, college, jobs..ect. I also know I have Social Anxiety disorder because I get so uncomfortable in public situations. I have panic attacks just walking down the hallway. I feel like all the kids stop, stare, and talk about me. My aniety would get so bad sometimes, I'd have to hold in my cry till I got home. I told my parents about it but, they just think I am shy and I will get over it. I have been dealing with this ever since I was maybe 11. I am 18 now and would really like to get out of this. I want to go to college and enjoy the normal things teens do. I have nevee been a date, never slow danced with a guy, I haven't been to the movies in years.. The one biyfriend I id have was emotionally abusive to me. I want to have that confident to attratxc the right guys. I am just wondering, what therapy could I get. Thanks for reading!
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Try "cognitive behavioral therapy". I wouldn't try medication yet, I don't think you need it, but it does help tremendously.
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Yeah cognitive behavioural therapy is good- but they make you work for it- you gotta do your homework- but the results last and you learn valuable things. It makes you so much more confident- but you gotta be ready for it and kinda pinpoint what is giving you the low self-esteem and ill feelings.

I would also recommend just general counselling like with your guidance counsellor. They are there to help you.

Also, its worth reading up on the things that bother you, type them in google and how to... etc.. find out how to make yourself happy and how to find the things that make you unhappy and work out how to overcome them. This maybe not great advice, but it has worked for me.

Yeah, emotional abuse can really grind you down to believing negative things about yourself and that can make you feel attracted to the wrong type of guys for validation over it. But the reality is that you do not need a guy to feel loved and accepted and awesome and hot etc.. you can through practice, get all those things on your own and create a solid self-esteem. And thus attract the right type of guy (usually when you have no need for one).

I am a big believer in self-care. When I don't do those things - it makes me feel not the best that I could be. Self-care is like a little toolbox of things you do that make you feel awesome for the day- like wearing your best clothes, taking special care of your skin and hair and going the extra mile, exercising, eating well, cleaning your room etc.. those sorts of things.


One book that really turned my life around - ( and I dont really like to plug anything) is 'Mastering your Meangirl' by Melissa Ambrossini . Its basically a kinda flashy book with Tumblr like pictures that really delves into insightful and very helpful advice into how to turn your life around. Worth looking in your library for.

Also this guy called 'Russ Harris' who invented a therapy called 'Acceptance & Commitment Therapy' & wrote a best seller called 'The Happiness Trap' is worth having a read.
https://thehappinesstrap.com/resources.php ( some free resources of his.)
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Yeah cognitive behavioural therapy is good- but they make you work for it- you gotta do your homework- but the results last and you learn valuable things. It makes you so much more confident- but you gotta be ready for it and kinda pinpoint what is giving you the low self-esteem and ill feelings.

I would also recommend just general counselling like with your guidance counsellor. They are there to help you.

Also, it's worth reading up on the things that bother you, type them in google and how to... etc.. find out how to make yourself happy and how to find the things that make you unhappy and work out how to overcome them. This maybe not great advice, but it has worked for me.

Yeah, emotional abuse can really grind you down to believing negative things about yourself and that can make you feel attracted to the wrong type of guys for validation over it. But the reality is that you do not need a guy to feel loved and accepted and awesome and hot etc.. you can do this through learning your own value instead, and can learn and practice getting all those things on your own. And thus attract the right type of guy (usually when you have no need for one) and also the right type of people that can support and help you grow and be your best.

I am a big believer in self-care. When I don't do those things - it makes me feel not the best that I could be. Self-care is like a little toolbox of things you do that make you feel awesome for the day- like wearing your best clothes, taking special care of your skin and hair and going the extra mile, exercising, eating well, cleaning your room etc.. those sorts of things.


One book that really turned my life around - ( and I don't really like to plug anything) is 'Mastering your Meangirl' by Melissa Ambrossini . (It's basically a kinda flashy book with Tumblr like pictures that really delves into insightful and very helpful advice on how to turn your life around. Worth looking in your library for.)

Also, this guy called 'Russ Harris' who invented a therapy called 'Acceptance & Commitment Therapy' & wrote a best seller called 'The Happiness Trap' is worth having a read.
https://thehappinesstrap.com/resources.php ( some free resources of his.)


Also, automatic writing and journaling can bring out things that you may be stuck with and don't know were lurking in your mind frame. Having a journal can be so realising and insightful, esp reading it back- ( can be kinda shocking tho or funny). But so worth it.

I hope I could help : )
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Good advice grapevine, but be aware this thread is from 2007, so you mighn't get a reply.
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