I can't work out whether to try therapy again

This time it would be REBT (rational emotive behavoural therapy), done by a psychologist.

I had an intro session with him, and already he says my situation is complex (& i agree). I read the intro printout on REBT, and it seems to be tailored for those who have poor reactions to people situations in real life (i avoid people, hardly ever seeing them .. so that doesnt seem to fit with me). I just have problems being by myself (mood, boredom, won't allow myself to do many things eg see people, no goals in life .. just generally i have a really isolated, tedious, crappy as f*ck life).

I get the feeling that, like with CBT, REBT will be useful only for specific identifiable situations, and not be useful at all for "general malaise" of which I have.
 
I'm thinking I might not do this therapy, but instead go back to my general councellor, and have generally unstructured therapy. Seems to be more what I need (the flexibility to take the therapy where I see fit, instead of strictly adhering to a one-size-fits-all structure).
 

PugofCrydee

You want to know how I got these scars?
I'd at least try it. Keep an open mind, we on this site obviously have problems that we need help with.
Others can only help you, if you help yourself first.
 
Generally speaking, i believe therapy can at best provide inspiration for some ideas, which then i might or might not be able to take further. But it can't help me directly per se.
 

PugofCrydee

You want to know how I got these scars?
Generally speaking, i believe therapy can at best provide inspiration for some ideas, which then i might or might not be able to take further. But it can't help me directly per se.


Well, I see it as indirectly helping. But the main thing is it will do no good at all if you go in with a closed mind. You have to really want to get better/improve.

A good therapist can provide you with the tools to improve, but it is up to you to use them and implement them each and every day to fight for every little bit of improvement.

The old saying goes, you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink ;)
 

Nanita

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I can relate to how you describe your life and therapy.
I'm seeing a therapist and I like her, I've gained a lot more insight in my own difficulties and my childhood, the dysfunctional patterns in my family. I feel more clarity because of the insight and understanding I have. But like you said, I don't think therapy is making that much of a difference for my life. Changing my empty, lonely, shitty life, would require that I do different things. And based on experiences and attempts, I'm pretty sure that I'm not able to function in anything.
I've tried the kind of therapy thing where you analyze different situations and try to change your habitual negative fear-based way of thinking and acting. And the whole trying to become more self confident. It really doesn't help me or change any of my diffculties to something less difficult.
 
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