how do you begin to socialize after a hermit cycle?

I've been in a relationship for a year. The relationship is healthy for the most part but I've stopped seeing and going out with friends. The important ones are still around and would be more than happy to hang but my real problem is not knowing how to make new friends.

My job has moved me an hour and a half away from my home town to a very small city. The job itself requires a lot of networking and out reach and that is on the back burner until I get some help with my SA. I have an apartment in this town but don't really stay there because I'm having such a hard time being away from my partner and family. I have no Internet, cell service, or TV at this place as it is in the middle of the mountains. It's a beautiful retreat but I really feel alone out there. Having friends in the town to occasionally invite over would be great. I have no idea how to do that. Any tips?

I think most of us on this site have the same problem aha. After all, it is a social phobia site. I know what you mean and how you feel though...I've been in a relationship for 2 years now and have been socializing less and less. I mainly socialize with family, coworkers, and my sig. other. Friends are nearly out of the picture, not that I have much time for them with work and school anyways. My advice would be to reconnect with the friends you are closest with, ask if they would like to come over one day or go to the mall or go see a movie or something. If you want to meet new people, see what your city/community/health centre offers for free group activities. Usually there are groups to meet new people and enjoy activities together like going on walks or just discussing topics. Good luck!

Not giving an damn and even focusing outside of your usually circle.

Im trying to figure out the same thing lol

well it depends on how long u have stayed away from your old friends...a year or more, 5 years??the longer it is the harder it will be obviously..

yep, making friends is quite difficult..best ways is through work or school..