Valentine's day, oh very exciting (!)

Spfreezes

Well-known member
There is nearly no girls around me. I don't know who can I tell that I love her? I've a faculty in where only few females are and I've done it in order to open a new clear page in my life without paranoias, depression and the stress that caused by SA. But it was a bad choice. it might be good for my career in the future but that would make me a real loser who would never have any chance of having a girlfriend and maybe a wife who knows?

Now I'm more courageous about being close to girls altough some of my fears are with me but I have no experiences at the same time. It's getting harder and harder to fix and everyting is still the same.::(: Nothing changes, I go mad when I see useless guys around girls and I'm out of their groups as an artless, innocent, silly boy.:mad: And that facebook! What a foolish site it is? it always reminds me that my life is just freakish and empty. It says as though ' Oh God, that boy doesn't even have a girlfriend, boring!' But I just can't close my account. I can't stand the feeling of isolation.

Thats to say another valentine's day alone. When will we be just normal people? How much hard is it.
 

bleach

Banned
You boys make it sound like you care more about being with a girl than the actual girl herself.

Just thought to say that out loud.

Fulfilling the need for intimacy is a more urgent psychological need than being in love with someone - although the needs are related. If you're starving, you want any food you can get. You don't tell yourself 'I won't eat until I find a gourmet meal.' It is the same relationship.
 

Spfreezes

Well-known member
You boys make it sound like you care more about being with a girl than the actual girl herself.

Just thought to say that out loud.

I have always esteemed girls' feelings & emotions and have helped them whenever they need without any expections. I mean I have been the pure one but after having bad experiences I understood that many girls are not as pure as me and many of them don't mind my thoughts about love and my emotions. That made me feel like a sucker. Now I see that the REAL love is only on movies and TVs or it has been left sometime in the past. I'm not to blame. Maybe you have many reasons to behave in that way like we do. I just don't want to be made a fool of anymore. Now, of course I conduct to girls well but I don't expect much. I hope there are good-natured ones somewhere.
 
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