Does anyone ever feel more comfortable alone, but still lonely?

This is my first time posting on this forum and have self diagnosed myself with SAD, so I would like to hear if any other fellow posters and lurkers have experienced what I have. I feel more comfortable alone at the computer than with other people and yet feel such loneliness. I go to a mediocre job (because I can't find the strength to go to school for a meaningful career) and then go home to immerse myself in the motley world of entertainment that is the internet just to forget myself and my sense of loneliness. I feel so lazy and tired just thinking of meeting new people or participating in a group function that it has become a vicious cycle of negative thinking. Lately I have been trying to think positively but low self image and many years of negative mind rot has made social interaction seem all but impossible. Has anyone else felt like this and did you do anything to help?
 

SweatSweatGoAway

Active member
yeah, It's such a struggle keeping your mind consistent throughout the day that it becomes a mental workout. At home, nobody is there to judge me about how to think, so it's a lot more comfortable. But the catch is you WANT to socialize, and WANT to get out more, but you don't want to face the awkwardness hyperhidrosis makes you feel. You're not alone. :(
 

Silvox Black

Well-known member
Indeed. The rut of depression and an attempt to forget everything haunts my feet with every step. I've found that friends are a fair method to fend off the knowledge of loneliness, and you are in luck, for you can find many suitable friends with empathy and compassion here.
 

Rexus

Well-known member
all we need as hyperhidrosis sufferers is someone to give us a PUSH. SWEAT should never stop you from achieving what you want because it makes you feel awkward. We OVERTHINK it. Ever since i took this new mindset things were much more FUN, and much more RELAXED, instead of stressing about sweat 24/7. And I constantly experiment with new things but don't let it take over my life.

The way I see it guys is that we are born like this. Some people are born midgets, some are born with no limbs, some are born blind, YET they still manage to ENJOY LIFE because they ACCEPT IT. I accept myself as I am (I know I sound a bit of a liar since I'm constantly seeking new treatments for hh, but I swear this mindset CHANGED a lot of my life).

Good luck my friends.
 
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userremoved

Guest
Yeah I get like this a lot too. I have to force myself to do things a lot because I know I'll find some excuse not to. Though I am kinda the lone wolf type I don't think human beings were made to be alone for too long.
 

brokenfingers04

Well-known member
Yeah keeping a postive outlook on life is key. Especially if you like being alone. No matter how bad things get keeping your head up and a smile/grin on your face will get you through whatever.
 

tiff64

New member
This explains my life so well. I feel most comfortable when i am just home w/ family. Although i do have friends I just constantly have to push myself to get out and join them if they want to do something. But the funny thing about it is even if we are all hanging out that is when i feel most alone. So i try and smile and laugh and keep engaged like everything is all good...but inside im uncomfortable and anxious. I don't know all though i enjoy my me time... every person needs a social life and friendships. So I just suck it up and deal with pushing myself to get out because i know thats the best thing for me to do...mingle and have fun...ur only young once!
 

TheBigSweat

Active member
I am the same way. When I am around friends I feel better AFTER the night is over and I am alone again. But when I completely lock myself off from the rest of the world it is too lonely and depressing.
 

IhateHH

Well-known member
i know what you mean.. i like to go out and meet knew people but cant seem to do it often cuz of my HH issues... my solution.. working out and Xbox live. I know some pretty cool people and if im gonna play video games, might aswell play online with people i get along with and have a few laughs about random crap.. and at the sametime.. they never get to see me and figure out my problems.

But dude just find a reason to get out and talk... i walk my dogs everyday and sometimes i run into people at the park walking their dogs too and our dogs play and we have a little conversation about iono our dogs, what we do, etc.. I find that walking to the park with my dogs really mellows me out so sweating isnt too much of a problem, for the most part.

So my advise.. find an activity that you really like.. like so much that you forget about everything else and feel relaxed.. then go tackle that b1**ch like theres no tomorrow lol
 
IhateHH, yeah I started going to a park, which is a forest, and walking the trails. Very peaceful and I talked with other hikers on the trail. It will help definitely.
 
Yes, I feel that way. I like to be alone, but I know if I want to be happy I will have to be social. I don't necessarily mind being social (even though I am very shy and anxious...) but I prefer to be alone. But I want to start hanging out with my friends and having fun. It's the healthiest thing to do. I know I'll feel much better if I do it.
 
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