Deleted my dating site account

I've been using a free dating site for over a year now and haven't gotten a single girls interest. I got a few messages back, but then they wouldn't message back eventually. Then there was one girl that did want to meet but I found out she just wanted a baby so I didn't meet her. I feel like I wasted my time on that site and will just try without a site's help.

Good for you. OLD in ok for a certain type of people but for most of us it is a waste of time. In my experience going out is a lot faster and more productive. Plus it puts you on the spot: it's kinda like sink or swim, so learning can be fast if you want it badly enough.

Aww, was there no changes you could make to your approach, profile etc.?
Is it really so hard on that scene? I'm thinking I'll have to resort to it in the next year or so... Going out and meeting partners IRL doesn't work out too well for me!

NamiraWilhelm said:

Aww, was there no changes you could make to your approach, profile etc.?
Is it really so hard on that scene? I'm thinking I'll have to resort to it in the next year or so... Going out and meeting partners IRL doesn't work out too well for me!

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For me it didn't work a lot of people were on there for looks of people. I also don't have many things in common with people around my area.

yea i deleted mine a few months ago...almost a year to the date i joined. I met 2 women who seemed to be really into me...they both wanted to meet but in the end i chickened out...or ruined it by telling them i didn't want to get married or have kids...The one i actually told that too said i made her cry..and she never spoke to me again.

jmroszczak said:

yea i deleted mine a few months ago...almost a year to the date i joined. I met 2 women who seemed to be really into me...they both wanted to meet but in the end i chickened out...or ruined it by telling them i didn't want to get married or have kids...The one i actually told that too said i made her cry..and she never spoke to me again.

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I had one girl a little interested in me but she told me she wanted a baby, I would be ok with that if she didn't want it now. Then another one just wanted to date me for my money so I shut her down too.

NamiraWilhelm said:

Aww, was there no changes you could make to your approach, profile etc.?
Is it really so hard on that scene? I'm thinking I'll have to resort to it in the next year or so... Going out and meeting partners IRL doesn't work out too well for me!

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Online dating has worked for, but I think the one caveat is that most people are on there because they have something about them that makes finding someone irl more difficult. For me it's my shyness and submissiveness. Talking online first makes it much easier. Some people are really busy and don't have time. Other aren't too busy and stay home a lot as opposed to meeting new people. A lot of those who aren't considered Good looking" by a lot of people. And then there's the really picky ones who are looking for people who has very specific qualities that may be hard to find (furries or polyamorous people for example)

But maybe that's just the dating scene in general, I'm not sure. If you have a hard time irl though, it's definitely worth giving a shot.