allergic2kryptonit
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i just spent 5 minutes typing a post, and my stupid computer decides to close internet explorer!!!
i have some questions, in the form a short story/ rant...
i was dumped a couple months ago by the only girl i ever really loved. when she broke up with me she was not very mature about it. instead of saying "hey this just isn't working out for me" she said things like I'm not very solid, and brought up every little thing that i did "wrong" (i think maybe she's borderline personality, but that's another story). well, i was so devastated and heartbroken, that i became very insecure and started second-guessing myself. oh, and the kicker, she wanted to be friends!? that lasted for a little while, now i think she already found a new boyfriend.
anyway, so for the past couple of months i've been depressed, obsessively looking for flaws in myself, going over my past, started therapy, etc. i have lifelong social anxiety, but when i met my last girlfriend, i was on zoloft and felt pretty good about myself (i quit taking the zoloft about 1month before things went south, think i went through withdrawal depression) so, i've been incessantly searching my past to see just exactly how i've ended up here in my current shitty situation. as a kid, my dad was angry all the time and very critical. my mom was depressed somewhat and good at inducing guilt. everything was so scary and serious. i was afraid to go to school, which my father yelled at me for. i felt very alone, scared, and unloved. my social anxiety got progressively worse as i got older. i was shamed about sex, and had strict moralistic rules to live by. heck, i was a virgin until my early 20s, and even now i still feel repressed and guilty. as a teenager i physically abused myself and to this day i feel very ashamed and angry that i was ever that messed up. i get insecure thinking about it, and have never been able to forgive myself. basically, i feel like i've got all this crap in my head and no way out. seems like most people are just doing what they want and enjoying life, and i've always been afraid to grab the reigns...
can anyone relate to this???
sometimes i wonder if i have ocd because i can't seem to let things go???
does anyone else feel fear of being independent??
i feel like i'm still thinking like a scared little boy, even though i'm 6'4", 210lbs, and 33yrs old!!!!
i just spent 5 minutes typing a post, and my stupid computer decides to close internet explorer!!!
i have some questions, in the form a short story/ rant...
i was dumped a couple months ago by the only girl i ever really loved. when she broke up with me she was not very mature about it. instead of saying "hey this just isn't working out for me" she said things like I'm not very solid, and brought up every little thing that i did "wrong" (i think maybe she's borderline personality, but that's another story). well, i was so devastated and heartbroken, that i became very insecure and started second-guessing myself. oh, and the kicker, she wanted to be friends!? that lasted for a little while, now i think she already found a new boyfriend.
anyway, so for the past couple of months i've been depressed, obsessively looking for flaws in myself, going over my past, started therapy, etc. i have lifelong social anxiety, but when i met my last girlfriend, i was on zoloft and felt pretty good about myself (i quit taking the zoloft about 1month before things went south, think i went through withdrawal depression) so, i've been incessantly searching my past to see just exactly how i've ended up here in my current shitty situation. as a kid, my dad was angry all the time and very critical. my mom was depressed somewhat and good at inducing guilt. everything was so scary and serious. i was afraid to go to school, which my father yelled at me for. i felt very alone, scared, and unloved. my social anxiety got progressively worse as i got older. i was shamed about sex, and had strict moralistic rules to live by. heck, i was a virgin until my early 20s, and even now i still feel repressed and guilty. as a teenager i physically abused myself and to this day i feel very ashamed and angry that i was ever that messed up. i get insecure thinking about it, and have never been able to forgive myself. basically, i feel like i've got all this crap in my head and no way out. seems like most people are just doing what they want and enjoying life, and i've always been afraid to grab the reigns...
can anyone relate to this???
sometimes i wonder if i have ocd because i can't seem to let things go???
does anyone else feel fear of being independent??
i feel like i'm still thinking like a scared little boy, even though i'm 6'4", 210lbs, and 33yrs old!!!!