Because you have SA, other seems more intent to make plans for you!

SilentAndShy

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ATM, I'm in an angry rage. Although with my SA, not showing it on the exterior but ranting and raving on the inside.

I don't want to go into specifics but it seems a sibling of mine has been planning something (that I don't want to happen) behind my back with an Uncle of mine and the implication seems to be, that me, quiet, shy, no friends, no life, no GF, will happily ride along. Won't be no objections.

They must really think I'm an insociable loser that they know I'll agree to their proposal and ride along.

Give me your prayers because when we have a discussion on this, my mind is set for all-out machine gun attack (not literally) with my mind and voice and am going to tear into those who feel they can plot, do what they want and I'll just join in, blindly, for the ride!

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Unspoken

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They might think they're doing something nice for you.

"Well, someone in the family doesn't seem to have anything to do." says one. "Hey! Let's find something so he feels better!" says another.
 

jaim38

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I dislike it when people try to force their plans on me. It just makes me resist even more. Instead of happily going along, I try to ruin it. So when their plans failed, they wonder why it didn't work. And instead of realizing that I'm resisting all along, they try to hatch new and bigger plans for me.
 
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SilentAndShy

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They might think they're doing something nice for you.

"Well, someone in the family doesn't seem to have anything to do." says one. "Hey! Let's find something so he feels better!" says another.

I wish it was. But it's not.

The theme (marriage) around what's bugging me, has been a long-standing issue that's been simmering under the surface.

They just think I'm shy etc so let's match him up with someone who we feel is RIGHT for him, because heck, he ain't going to find one himself!
 

jaim38

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This is happening to me now. People are making plans for me, but I didn't catch on to it until it was too late. They were 1 step ahead of me. D*** it! I'm angry they made plans without consulting me. It's insensitive. I want to get better, but I also want a say in my future. People don't realize how much trauma I suffered in the past. Now they're hatching similar plans and expecting things will somehow be better. I don't know what difference it will make.

My tears have stopped and mood has stabilized. I'm not sure what to feel anymore. I think I've come to the realization that reality is stacked against me and I am forced to go with the flow. I guess I have no choice this time.

I'm still scared though. Let's see, how did I survive school 2-3 years back? I remember doing a countdown, marking off days until the end of class / finals week. I will have to implement the same coping strategy and somehow forcefully motivate myself to carry on to the very end! Gosh, it feels like the end of the world, even though I know it's not.

I remember carrying a watch/cell phone with me to class. I kept on looking at it. When class was over, I was so happy! But I was even happier during finals week, especially the last day of class. I was finally free. But this time i'm going through the same process, but for the last time. You could say I endured a lot from my former classmates, TAs, and strangers, but too much perseverence can wear me down, especially when that perserverence is accompanied by bullying and social alienation.
 
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