anyone just started uni?

of_darkness

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I'm not coping as well with the change as I thought I would. Haven't started the course yet but my 4 flat mates are all nice and things aren't too bad.

But I feel I'm letting myself down continuously. I'm already the quieter one which annoys the hell out of me that I let it happen after just 3 nights of being here. Now I'm preparing myself for a hard few years ahead. I feel that if I can't make an impact now I never will. Still one more chance. I start on the 22nd which will be my first and last proper chance to meet people and make those all important first impressions as positive as possible. I've been looking people in the eye a lot more when I talk to them which is good, but sometimes I drop when I've stopped talking. I like to think that I know what people think of me, which is a definite positive point about what I've done with myself. I'm so confident about my ability to create and express my feelings in other ways through music and art that I'm not as self deprecating and miserable as some of you guys! I have the edge to feel good abut myself sometimes. So at times I feel ok but I know things letting me down are for example my speaking tone, which can be very monotonous and hard sometimes! Not one word answers but just the way it can be sudden. That's my main problem, if not my only one. It puts people off, which I can tell from the way my brother talks sometimes. Possibly that's from my upbringing, where my parents are very odd in less obvious ways. They pushed us but not in a forceful manner, it was more about making us feel like we're doing things wrong or being lazy. So I've always had things to think I'm wrong about, which must come across in the feeble submissive manner I speak in!

this is turning into another piece of odd text from me again, but I'm here to help you all as well as tell you about how I'm helping myself feel good about my problems.

As I've probably said before there is no such thing as this stupid social phobia/anxiety. Your biggest weakness is categorizing yourself as a weak individual. Chances are you won't notice that subtle thing. "I have SP, I can't talk to people and I get shakey and nervous, please help me get better" will lead you NOWHERE!!! I'm dead serious. You're totally signing your life away.
 

of_darkness

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anyone? I thought that was quite a useful deep post, maybe the subject is a little off the point...

all you people are complaining too much and don't seem to understand your problems..
 
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