ANYONE AS NEGATIVE AS ME?

I bet not. I am very very very negative and no matter what people tell me, i don't listen to it neither do i care. I know i won't ever be happy and i have wasted 16 years of my life. The things that i wanted to do when i was 8.9,10,11,12,13.... are gone so why should i caere. I am already old(16) and there is no going back to it. I just want to die and end everything. End the pain, the suffering, the anxiety, the depression and my parent's stupidity which was what brought me to this. If they knew, if they knew, they go around thinking that they are the best parents in the world but to me, I wish they had never created me or given birth to me.l

You're 16 years old and you feel like you're old and you've wasted most of your life?

You're young my friend. You have plenty of time yet. Do not despair! :wink:

..

I don't feel young at all. I feel like my life is pretty much over. Soon i will be 20 and then 30 and then....thats it.

Depressed4life, heres the thing. I am going to try to tell you what I thought when I was your age. O.K. I know you are an intelligent person and so you know suicide is not an answer. It isn't even a possibility. So, that's out. So then, what else is there? Give up??? O.K. What does "give up" mean??? I mean really, really think about it.

Pretend you say "I'm going to give up on life". What does that mean? You will go about doing your everyday thing but.. you've "given up". So life will be... School. Home.TV. Sleep. School. Home. TV. Sleep. School. Home. TV. Sleep. But what has changed?

You are still alive. You are still you. You are still doing what you've always done. Life still sucks. You are still mad at your parents. You still hate your clothes. You still hate your hair. You still hate your "friends". You still feel alone. You still hate yourself. You still hate everything! So, what has changed??

I am trying to say: there is absolutely no choice for you but to do something to change your life and your life circumstances.

When I was your age, actually a bit older, my friend- who was 18 at the time- would always say "I feel so old!" And I would say to her "If you feel old now what are you going to do when you are older??? My point is, do NOT waste your youth, dear girl!!!! DO NOT waste your youth!!! Your life is in YOUR HANDS.

Do you know what comes with age? Hindsight. Hindsight is the ability to look back on your experiences and see how you could have done things differently. Hindsight is the ability to look back on your life and see everything in a different light. Hindsight is a great, great thing! It allows you to see things from a different perspective. It opens your eyes. Unfortunately, it always, always comes after the fact.

Listen, you absolutely need to go and talk to someone. Girl, you MUST go talk to someone!!! Be careful looking for friends online too. This site is full of wonderful and supportive people but you still have no idea who you are talking to and you are too young and too wonderful to not be careful!! Go- right now! - and find someone to talk to.

Please don't misunderstand. You have my total support. But please, take your life- this gift God has given you- and make it something you ENJOY! While you are still young! It can be that for you! Somehow, someway. It is in your hands!

I know about this.

When I was 16 I felt the exact same way. But you know what, krs2snow is exactly right: as you grow older you will have the benefit of hindsight.

I don't want to sound like I am talking down to you as though I know it all, I don't. But what I can say is that I am 24 and I feel so much more optimistic about my future than I did even two years ago.

A brighter future is possible. You need to believe and talk, talk, Talk, TALK! Yes!

I know this might sound corny or perhaps just a bunch of useless words aimed to make you feel better, but no! I mean it.

I am only 24, still very young. You are not old my friend. There are many more horizons for you to travel. So much lies ahead. I wish I could enlighten you but the future is a beautiful thing, because with an optimistic mind it is full of wonderous mystery.

Am I sounding too la-di-da? I hope not.

Mate, all I can say is trust me. Right now, you feel horrible, that there is nothing that can bring you out of the despair you feel and that this will continue for the rest of your days, mate this is simply not true.

The most important thing is to believe in yourself. I know it's hard, because social phobia has the ability to strip us of our confiedence.

But mate, talk to a friend you think you can trust. Talk to a school counsellor. Talk to your parents. Or if you would like, I'll send you my email address and we can correspond. Whatever you think woulld work.

I feel for your pain, as I know it from experience. Remember that there is strength in numbers, as long as we stick together, nothing can stop us!

(Sorry for being so over the top, I can't help it, I care.)

dont worry mate your still young, lots of wasted years lie ahead :lol:

Only kidding huh. Theres still time to change your life. By the time your a young adult you could have a whole new direction if you act now.

I think that alot of the problem with people with sp is habit. Years of bieng negative becomes a habit, and as we all know habits, good or bad, are hard to break. Your addiction to thinking negative is much milder than you think, because your habit has been shorter than other peoples. It gets harder as you get older, take action now, dont give up, and you can end up live the rest of you life happily.

Believe me your best years lie ahead 16 is nothing. If you play your cards right 18-24 is where its at :lol:

Remember this ill say it again, habits, good or bad, are hard to break.

Break you bad habit now, while its still still young, and develop a habit of bieng happy. Then youl have as much trouble bieng unhappy as you do now bieng happy

dont worry mate your still young, lots of wasted years lie ahead :lol:

Only kidding huh. Theres still time to change your life. By the time your a young adult you could have a whole new direction if you act now.

I think that alot of the problem with people with sp is habit. Years of bieng negative becomes a habit, and as we all know habits, good or bad, are hard to break. Your addiction to thinking negative is much milder than you think, because your habit has been shorter than other peoples. It gets harder as you get older, take action now, dont give up, and you can end up live the rest of you life happily.

Believe me your best years lie ahead 16 is nothing. If you play your cards right 18-24 is where its at :lol:

Remember this ill say it again, habits, good or bad, are hard to break.

Break you bad habit now, while its still still young, and develop a habit of bieng happy. Then youl have as much trouble bieng unhappy as you do now bieng happy

...

Ads7800 said:

I know about this.

When I was 16 I felt the exact same way. But you know what, krs2snow is exactly right: as you grow older you will have the benefit of hindsight.

I don't want to sound like I am talking down to you as though I know it all, I don't. But what I can say is that I am 24 and I feel so much more optimistic about my future than I did even two years ago.

A brighter future is possible. You need to believe and talk, talk, Talk, TALK! Yes!

I know this might sound corny or perhaps just a bunch of useless words aimed to make you feel better, but no! I mean it.

I am only 24, still very young. You are not old my friend. There are many more horizons for you to travel. So much lies ahead. I wish I could enlighten you but the future is a beautiful thing, because with an optimistic mind it is full of wonderous mystery.

Am I sounding too la-di-da? I hope not.

Mate, all I can say is trust me. Right now, you feel horrible, that there is nothing that can bring you out of the despair you feel and that this will continue for the rest of your days, mate this is simply not true.

The most important thing is to believe in yourself. I know it's hard, because social phobia has the ability to strip us of our confiedence.

But mate, talk to a friend you think you can trust. Talk to a school counsellor. Talk to your parents. Or if you would like, I'll send you my email address and we can correspond. Whatever you think woulld work.

I feel for your pain, as I know it from experience. Remember that there is strength in numbers, as long as we stick together, nothing can stop us!

(Sorry for being so over the top, I can't help it, I care.)

Click to expand...

I barely have friends and the one i have they don't understand. I don't tell them anything i just put on a good show and pretend that nothing is wrong. I get back home, i get back to reality.

Yeah I feel worthless to every now and then, but then I think why give up it's just not worth it. You have to think one day your life is going to change and your going to be happier. It just takes time, everyone has rough times in there life and I just have to remember that. And your never too old to change things either, your only 16, you have your whole life ahead of you.

Yesterday's history,tommorow's a mystery and today's a gift that's why they call it the present...

I'm 35 & have not thrown in the towel yet....I feel bad sometimes to thinking of my age & all the things I have not done yet that I hope to be able to do some day. I mean basicly my life could already be half over & that sucks big time & it's scares me when I dwell on that but I just keep on keepin' on because I keep telling myself, "This is my life..not somebody else's & it don't matter if I'm not as far along as other people my same age are... I will get where I want to be when the time is right for me."

There is a great song (in my opinion) that I listen to often, it's by Cinderella & it's called "One for rock-n-roll", & it makes me feel better every time I crank it up.

..

That sucks, i dont want to even make it to 35, i rather end it now than to continue living a miserable life. I just hated it, i hope i get ran over by a car so that i can die faster. I am something i am not, i have no personality and i dont even know who i am anymore.

Re: ..

Depressed4life said:

I don't feel young at all. I feel like my life is pretty much over. Soon i will be 20 and then 30 and then....thats it.

Click to expand...

30 and then that's it? Oh crap!!

..

Thats how i feel like my life will be over so soon!! Seriously i just want to die.