no1 said:
I'm asking an honest question. If a guy has had, or has SA, would you now think he is any less of a man, deserving of death?
Im a guy so my opinion is probaly not what your looking for,but im gonna give it anyway lol
Its blatantly obvious to anyone with half a brain cell... that having social anxiety affects our social skills,our communication skills and hence.. relationships arnt always easy.
Even more so... if its sever social anxiety and you start to throw depression into the mix aswell because they often go hand in hand.Then you get another heap load of issues which can make relationships seem so out of reach or impossible for guys AND girls.
I see alot of guys on here say how its okay for girls to come across shy because its cute ect And try and say its then not as hard for girls in relationships for the said reason.Everyones entitled to there own opinion but that really doesnt fly for me cos i think a relationship is hard for anyone when you find it hard to be secure about yourself male or female.
Anyway I dont think having SA makes anyone any less of a person...But the important thing is believeing that yourself.Ive been poorly for a long time now and over the years ive had the odd relationship,and in pretty much every single one ive been walked all over like a door matt,ive been cheated on,taken advantage of and all sorts.It would easy for me to just say all those girls took advantage of my nature and just used me.
But i think the truth is that im not perfect myself,and i think at times if i had a bit more of a backbone... and wasnt so insecure that i felt i had to always try and please the other person then maybe the relationships would of been better.Also i think because social anxiety can make you feel so lonley... wanting or needing a partner.. becomes like a crutch..You become needy and depend on them for your confidence and stuff and its really not healthy.I know this phrase gets thrown round so much but i really do think you need to love yaself or at least have some self belief about yourself and that drive to at least try and work on your problems to have a healthy relationship.
I do think there is a perfect someone out there for everyone tho
anyway sorry for the totaly long rant people 8O And i agree with what Agitprop is saying.