When students/co-workers go AWOL,do you feel its your fault?

Do you always think its your fault? For example, if a person scheduled to work with you simply doesn't show up, do you always think its your fault. Even if they have called in sick or something, I always think they are staying at home because they hate me. If I talked to a person at school the day before they were away, I always thought it was my fault, no matter how little they actually knew me.

No, I feel that I'm so insignificant that people will not notice that I'm there or not and certainly not a big enough influence to make them go awol or off sick.

I might think that if I totally treated them like crap. However, the likelihood that they are skipping work because they hate working with a dork is unlikely. I mean, it's possible, but certainly not something that characterizes a facet of my SP.

Oh my gosh, yes! I mean, there have been times where I've thought "that student MUST have quit the class because of me" and then other times where its just sort of a thought that comes and goes but I'm not actually believing it. This happens for a lot of things though, where I think things are my fault. Throughout early years in high school, when in group projects, I almost always told myself "ugh, this presentation went horrible because of ME". I realize now it was just bad group dynamics, all shy people, etc but I know I'd still be saying that if I had to face a presentation these days.

From my experience, people who have depression tend to blame themselves for just about everything. Even for things they have nothing to do with or have no control over. I'm constantly feeling guilty about everything, and am always willing to take fault. That's why I'm such an easy victim, I guess .

Ha ha, yes, I do this!! Nowadays I usually realise that it's an irrational thought, the thought that they are away because of me. Like, I think it, and then I think 'but of course that is almost certainly not the reason they are away', and then feel ok. Because most of the time it really is unlikely that I am the reason.

But I know that occasionally I might really be the reason, because personally I avoid people sometimes, so they could be doing the same thing. It's a matter of working out how likely it is that you are the reason, and how likely it is that they would be away or whatever, for such a small reason as that.

Interesting topic!