What some people want/desire ?

I'm curious to know what some of you want or desire? --just think of whatever answers that question. --it could be an experience you want, a physical thing, or something abstract or imaginary. You wouldn't have to worry about if you think it's "impossible" or not, at this time or any time, to answer the question. Also, these things could change for you--you might not have these same desires later.

This might seem silly or meaningless, but I think it's actually very important. I think it can help a person's "perspective", or view of things, or their focus.

Here are personal, honest examples for me:
I want:
-to feel that I can potentially do anything I want to
-to not be afraid
-to know what it is that I want in my life
-to feel capable of doing things
-to feel confident that I can survive
-to KNOW what's true, instead of just believing in something that may or may not be true
-to meet people who I can connect with, and relate to
-to have an actual community, where people are not pressured to "fit in", where people are appreciated even when they're incredibly different from everyone else
-to feel I can say anything I want to say
-to be independent
-to have a place where I can feel I belong--even if it has to be a non-physical place, a place I can't see with my eyes but I can feel/sense
-to meet people who end up liking me out of their own free will. They don't like me because they feel pity for me, but because they have uniquely felt good about me, without any pressure from some belief or idea they might have had. They like me out of a natural attraction.

(you can't change who you are. Nice post but once you get to thinking "I am determined to talk more, I can do this!!" you're getting into trouble slightly. It's good to be optimistic and forward thinking socially for the long term, as in you want to be happy and make the most of people's company.....

but you're going to be quiet and maybe that one characteristic shouldn't change. It's easy to forget that. Think of all the questions you want but you're disillusioned if you think once this is over you will be perfectly normal. By getting rid of anxiety there is nothing wrong with remaining reserved and quiet!!! remember that cause I swear that is on noone's minds here!!! it's so easy to miss)

I myself want to find more genuine people, people I can connect with and who will not judge me. Even the nicest people can judge you and instantly treat you the same for the rest of your life. I want them to like me for what I do, for my achievements, not my social skills.

And I want to find myself a bit more. I'm indecisive about everything from friends, what I wear, what I want to be like... I haven't found myself at all, I do what I want but can't settle....

of_darkness said:

(you can't change who you are. Nice post but once you get to thinking "I am determined to talk more, I can do this!!" you're getting into trouble slightly. It's good to be optimistic and forward thinking socially for the long term, as in you want to be happy and make the most of people's company.....

but you're going to be quiet and maybe that one characteristic shouldn't change. It's easy to forget that. Think of all the questions you want but you're disillusioned if you think once this is over you will be perfectly normal. By getting rid of anxiety there is nothing wrong with remaining reserved and quiet!!! remember that cause I swear that is on noone's minds here!!! it's so easy to miss)

I myself want to find more genuine people, people I can connect with and who will not judge me. Even the nicest people can judge you and instantly treat you the same for the rest of your life. I want them to like me for what I do, for my achievements, not my social skills.

And I want to find myself a bit more. I'm indecisive about everything from friends, what I wear, what I want to be like... I haven't found myself at all, I do what I want but can't settle....

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Thanks.

I don't think it's about "changing who you are." It could be about "becoming more of what you are"? I'm looking at everything from a limited perspective, and forgetting about the other parts of myself.

I'm not determined to talk "more." At any given time, there are only certain things I'd want to say. I just want to be comfortable or capable, of talking when I have something I want to say.
If I didn't have anything I wanted to say, I wouldn't mind being quiet around other people. It's when I'm stifling something that I want to express, that I feel a problem.

Instead of thinking about "getting rid of anxiety", I want to think about going to somewhere else I want to be. Like, what am I replacing anxiety with?--That is about desire.

Example: If I am stuck in quicksand, sinking deeper and deeper by the minute, I might want to study and identify "where I am" for a certain amount of time, but what can effectively get me out of the situation, is to study "where I want to be". If one identifies where they want to go, how they DO want to feel, it would then be easier to GO there.
Then, the quicksand would not be a problem in the way that it was before.

Yes, I know that I usually don't want to be feeling "social anxiety", but also, I think it's then important to envision what it is I want instead of those feelings.

I want to be genuinely happy. I'd like to be able to smile without it being superficial. I also wish that I wasn't so lonely.

chris87 said:

I want to be genuinely happy. I'd like to be able to smile without it being superficial. I also wish that I wasn't so lonely.

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I want those things for myself, too. I'd like to feel "joy". Like being all warm inside, when things in life are starting to fall into place like you feel they should be.

It seems like no body gives a f*** about this thread I started. The few people that noticed it probably said to themselves, "Hmmmmmmmm...what the f*** is this shit? What's this guy talking about?"

Isn't it a simple question? --"what do you want?" Can't some people just write at least ONE sentence in reply? Just write one WORD at least, if you don't care enough to write a sentence!!

Somebody....please....I'm dying here....
all alone in the darkest corner of my room...where no light reaches--ever...
somebody please talk to me....or am I just invisible to everyone? Am I EVEN invisible to people who have social anxiety?!!!

hey, I thought this was a good post! I don't know why more people didn't comment. I said mine amidst a load more crap about how I don't need what I want because it may well involve being not me.

Carrying on from your comment, yea I know people might not what to change themselves, but they may be being too optimistic and wanting too much to be this other person. Cause the way some people on this forum talk really worries me sometimes, they've got it all wrong and need fucking help, not stupid drugs...

A drug for social anxiety that works

To finally accept that I'm fine just the way I'm am.