would like everyone's opinion on this

[akrustyk]

I made a post about a week ago about my first serious girlfriend (I'm almost 26) breaking up with me after we had been together almost 5 months. Long story short, she's insisting it's nothing I did/didn't do and that she got into dating again before she was ready and now she's going through some personal stuff (some of which I know about). She wouldn't tell me the exact reason that she wanted to break up other than we may not have been compatible enough (despite her telling me she loved me). My feeling is that I just wasn't social enough around her friends, and I know that was important to her. I was really talkative and not shy at all around her.

We are still communicating and she wants to stay friends (and said she would consider giving me another chance (as I put in) once she gets through everything. She just said she needs some time to work on some things and I told her I would work on my shyness (which I feel has gotten a little better since we broke up). She also said she didn't expect me to wait around for her cause there's so much for me to experience and possibly someone better to spend it with.

So I've talked to a few acquantances at work and one of them suggested I send her flowers on Valentines Day just to let her know I still really care about her. At first I wasn't going to, but the last few days we've been communicating with each other a lot. We haven't talked on the phone since the break up, but we are e-mailing a lot while we are both at work. It's almost like everything's the same as it was before except I don't call her and we don't see each other in person. Part of me (and other people) think this might almost be a test, or that maybe she thinks I don't love her as much as I do.

Anyway, here's what I put on the card:
Happy Valentines Day! I just want you to know that you are still very special to me and I will always be here for you, even if you just need someone to talk to when times get tough. I wish you the best as you try to get through everything and just know that I am right here when the time is right.
You truly are the girl of my dreams.
Love,
(me)

I know that last line was a little cheesy, but I truly feel that way. She even said I was the man of her dreams a couple times in our relationship. That's why I think she still might love me. Yes she said she felt we might be a little too compatible, but I think she is just saying that cause she doesn't want to blame this on my shyness.

What is everyone's thoughts on this? Good move or not?

 

[danstelter]

. Yes she said she felt we might be a little too compatible, but I think she is just saying that cause she doesn't want to blame this on my shyness.

What is everyone's thoughts on this? Good move or not?

Relationships are a very tricky thing, but I think that you hit it on the head right here. Women don't like to hurt their significant other's feelings, so they bend the truth a little.

My advice would be to keep working your confidence/shyness, which you state you were doing. I might avoid sending anything on Valentine's too her because that may communicate to her that you are clingy, a major turnoff for women.

The best thing you could do would be to date other women, make sure she knows about it, and show her what the heck it is she is missing out on!

 

[RiiyaX]

[Gone for good.]

 

[Havocan]

You shouldn't send the card at all, not in its current state; that includes removing the "cheesy" last line. Reformulate it so it doesn't sound so intense and clingy, and perhaps skip the flowers too. Give her time to struggle with her things and don't nag about getting together, that's a major turnoff in most cases. You can't change the person you are, you'll probably always have shyness to some degree, and for the relationship to work she needs to accept that^^.

Anyway, good luck.