Why does everyone have a problem with communicating???

[CK23]

Hey guys...
I wouldnt waste too much of your time and keep this as precise as i can...
I just wanna know, why people you reach out to dont think you exist.... What i mean is, suppose you felt you were reserved and decided to change it and be more open... You send an sms to people you know at work, or at university or whatever.... and then you try it out again and again.... keep thinking of some small talk and trying to be there so to speak... but you realize that all you get are replies... No one sends a msg to you like 'Hi, Bud how's it going' or 'hey dude, what's been up, havent heard from you in a while, been missin ya' ??? You wonder why you are the only one sending these msgs!!! why cant the others whom you've texted, messaged on msn or e.mailed... why dont they send these msgs... what's their problem... do they have a problem with polite people who dont pull your leg and swear in public? Are they always looking for pranks and personal questions? Do they hate guys who are alone and in need of a good friend?? Really, i'd like your own opinion...I figured, since i have this Social Anxiety problem i should post on this site so that i can get the opinion of people to whom i can relate... thanks for your time! Adios!

 

[Helyna]

It's girls, too. I can't get anyone to talk/write to me.

 

[dan_e]

I just wanna know, why people you reach out to dont think you exist.... What i mean is, suppose you felt you were reserved and decided to change it and be more open... You send an sms to people you know at work, or whatever.... and then you try it out again and again.... keep thinking of some small talk and trying to be there so to speak... but you realize that all you get are replies... No one sends a msg to you

Funny you should mention this. The same thing happens to me all the time and I can't understand it. People will talk to me and say good things about me BUT not much comes of it. And yet they're chomping at the bit to talk to or message other people.
You know what's equally as bad if not worse? When someone does finally contact you first, then leaves you hanging or totally forgets about it. Such a letdown.
Sometimes I feel as though I'm speaking a different language. :roll:

 

[Hoth]

We probably expect too much. People are used to 99% of contacts not amounting to anything more than a couple words a year, but they interact with people so easily that the other 1% is enough to make lots of friends. If it's difficult for you so you don't try as often, you're more invested in each instance and it feels like constant damaging failure, and you don't do it enough for success to be statistically likely.

Also, with your lack of contacts and their many contacts, they're bound to be more important to you than you are to them.