tehStranger
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Why do people think I'm Gay?
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2QuietForThem
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I'm not sure that you can please them. They've made up their minds - the small minds that they have. They have nothing better to do than wonder about you and your sex life. Those people are pretty lame. I went through the same thing in high school. Heck, I checked out every girl in the place. I got the gay thing because this SA kept me from hanging around girls. I just kept to myself and NEVER let them know that they bothered me. If they see that you react to their name-calling, then they know they've drawn blood and then want more. My advice - ignore the losers! Besides, I've heard many times that the ones who call out people as being gay are actually trying to hide their own gay thoughts.
PunkyMonkey
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This makes me think of something that happened today that I thought was weird.. I am helping out right now in a different store than my own, and there's a boy in one of the departments that I thought was kind of...cute. Actually, I mostly liked him because I realized he was very quiet and everything. But then I went outside on my break, and everyone at the table was talking about him and saying that they thought he was gay! They had nothing really to say about him, except that they didn't know him, because he hardly talked to them. I was almost amazed....that they could say such a thing about him just because he is quiet.
Not that that helps you very much. But maybe only one or two people think that, and it's all they can think to say about you since they don't understand you. It's definitely not right, though.
Not that that helps you very much. But maybe only one or two people think that, and it's all they can think to say about you since they don't understand you. It's definitely not right, though.
Therover
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Heh, I get that all the time.
Because I never have a girlfriend, and I always have girls coming on to me but I never do anything about it.
I'm not gay, not even remotely; but in the small minds of gossiping people 1+1=3.
As to what to do to make them stop, you could just be seen with lots of girls around you; preferably with your tongue down their throats. Of course, if you could just do that no one would have accused you of being gay in the first place. :roll:
Because your different people will make all kinds of assumptions about why that would be.
The gay thing never bothered me because its so obviously not true (anyone who spends any time around you will realize that). But some of the other things can be a little disturbing.
For instance, because you seem nervous all the time; people wonder if your up to no good. Sometimes I feel like people are looking at my like I might be planning on robbing them or something.
Just let people think whatever they are going to think, they are going to do it anyway.
Because I never have a girlfriend, and I always have girls coming on to me but I never do anything about it.
I'm not gay, not even remotely; but in the small minds of gossiping people 1+1=3.
As to what to do to make them stop, you could just be seen with lots of girls around you; preferably with your tongue down their throats. Of course, if you could just do that no one would have accused you of being gay in the first place. :roll:
Because your different people will make all kinds of assumptions about why that would be.
The gay thing never bothered me because its so obviously not true (anyone who spends any time around you will realize that). But some of the other things can be a little disturbing.
For instance, because you seem nervous all the time; people wonder if your up to no good. Sometimes I feel like people are looking at my like I might be planning on robbing them or something.
Just let people think whatever they are going to think, they are going to do it anyway.
Same here, although I could understand why people would think I'm twinking, hehe.
Besides the fact that I'm seen as a loner and all that jazz, I also happen to have a slightly fem physique. I'm 5'7", 140lbs. I've been hitting the gym for awhile, which is resulting in some beefiness.....but still.
I don't know if I'll ever have that full.....masculine look. I'm comfortabe with the way I am, so whatever. I used to be skin & bones -- but I've upgraded to skinny/slender.
PunkyMonkey: That dude at your store could as very well be me. The same thing happened to moi at my current job (I found out via another co-worker). Everyone thinks I'm gay. The story of my life.
So aside from our personalities, maybe our looks indicate to some people that we're gay?
Besides the fact that I'm seen as a loner and all that jazz, I also happen to have a slightly fem physique. I'm 5'7", 140lbs. I've been hitting the gym for awhile, which is resulting in some beefiness.....but still.
I don't know if I'll ever have that full.....masculine look. I'm comfortabe with the way I am, so whatever. I used to be skin & bones -- but I've upgraded to skinny/slender.
PunkyMonkey: That dude at your store could as very well be me. The same thing happened to moi at my current job (I found out via another co-worker). Everyone thinks I'm gay. The story of my life.
So aside from our personalities, maybe our looks indicate to some people that we're gay?
hey tehStranger...people are so stupid and judgemental..pisses me off..and as a contrast to us...keeping our thoughts and opinions to ourselves, some people of the "not shy".."outgoing" variety feel the need to blurt out every opinion and judgement out of their mouths...not thinking of others' feelings or really not caring..i don't get that mentality..and you shouldn't have to convince them of your sexuality one way or the other, cause it's not really their business..but, funny how people like that just make it their business..... :evil:tehStranger said:
Diluted_Acid
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Glad to see we can all relate one way or another. I too have had parents with a very funny attitude towards my SA, my dad never thought i was gay . . . just thought i acted gay :x , then my mum would buy all these books on knowing how to deal with a gay son :roll: . Other than that i think what hurts, is when your at school (and your a guy) . . . . you have some girls approach you . . . . only to leave you due to your unaproachableness (lol can't think of a word 
) . . . . and then the girls don't regard you as gay . . . . but as a self centred, stereotype of one of those bastarded type guys who have no respect or interest in having females as friends . . . . . . and then on the other hand, the guys will continually call you offensive names and maybe spank you. It's tough growin up with these circumstances, as i know many of you may understand, and the only way i escaped all this, which lasted since the beginning of primary till midway through highschool, was to socialise more with girls (still very hard . . . . and distressing for me), take up a sportive hobbie where guys could give me respect, and i could benefit myself from this SA. Otherwise honestly, i would just ignore those remarks. I still get them today, and i just have a chuckle about them, e.g. this big bikie came into my work the other day telling me i looked like a girl. My boss hates him, and he is known as a bad guy around here, therefore i just winked at him, waved in a very ditzy way sayin 'cya around sweetie'. He looked very angry . . . . yet more surpised, however he already has a bad rep around my area, therefore theres not alot he can do . . . . . and besides, i tend to be very cocky and arrogant, if i come to work from a bad day at school when i can't express myself to anyone, or even talk.
Haha same same, i'm 5'7 and use to have a fem build too. But then since i been workin out i've been getting alot more muscle . . . . yet for being muscle today i get considered gayer :? . . . . . lol can't win .
) . . . . and then the girls don't regard you as gay . . . . but as a self centred, stereotype of one of those bastarded type guys who have no respect or interest in having females as friends . . . . . . and then on the other hand, the guys will continually call you offensive names and maybe spank you. It's tough growin up with these circumstances, as i know many of you may understand, and the only way i escaped all this, which lasted since the beginning of primary till midway through highschool, was to socialise more with girls (still very hard . . . . and distressing for me), take up a sportive hobbie where guys could give me respect, and i could benefit myself from this SA. Otherwise honestly, i would just ignore those remarks. I still get them today, and i just have a chuckle about them, e.g. this big bikie came into my work the other day telling me i looked like a girl. My boss hates him, and he is known as a bad guy around here, therefore i just winked at him, waved in a very ditzy way sayin 'cya around sweetie'. He looked very angry . . . . yet more surpised, however he already has a bad rep around my area, therefore theres not alot he can do . . . . . and besides, i tend to be very cocky and arrogant, if i come to work from a bad day at school when i can't express myself to anyone, or even talk.VinRock said:
Haha same same, i'm 5'7 and use to have a fem build too. But then since i been workin out i've been getting alot more muscle . . . . yet for being muscle today i get considered gayer :? . . . . . lol can't win
.My own best friend is starting to think I'm gay and I find it rather funny. It's only because I've never had a girlfriend before and the fact that I hit the weights constantly. I don't believe that I have a feminin looking physique, as I am 5'11 180 pounds now. But my friend is using my lack of contact with women and the whole bodybuilding thing to imply that I must be gay. I'm not, plain and simple. I'm just shy around women due to the way that I was largely ignored in the past. Don't take other peoples shallow judgements about you seriously. Just ignore them. No big deal if they think your gay, thoughts are only that, thoughts.
Horatio
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people at school and at church used to make fun of me and beat me up cause they thought I was gay
they thought I was gay because I never had any girlfriends and was into arts/drama/music instead of playing rugby. where I grew up, anyone who didnt play rugby was automatically considered to be homosexual and deserved to be punched every day for it
although I am not and never have been gay I feel I can relate to those who came out when they were in their teens as I know how persecuted they can become
they thought I was gay because I never had any girlfriends and was into arts/drama/music instead of playing rugby. where I grew up, anyone who didnt play rugby was automatically considered to be homosexual and deserved to be punched every day for it
although I am not and never have been gay I feel I can relate to those who came out when they were in their teens as I know how persecuted they can become
This is really funny that this is a post topic because i've been in the process of convincing my dad that i am not gay with one of my only friends. It doesn't help that we're naturally nervous and secretive when trying to convince someone that you are not, and really why should you have to convince anyone? Right now i'm pretty hurt and angry that my own father questions me, especially since i thought of him as one of the closest people to me. I've pretty much taken an "i dont give a f*ck" stance on it at this point after telling him i wasn't, that's about as much as you can do. I would say it's not worth it to try and convince people beyond telling them the truth, they're idiots and they'll think what they want. I think they're more likely to believe you're not gay if you don't let their accusations bother you in any way or make you feel you have to convice them.
toshihiro
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lmao, hi guys, i have the same problem , i think its for the social phobia that it does that people think im gay, but now i dont care , but yet with that problem in less grade, greetings from peru, south america, there is a web site for spanish people www.fobiasocial.net , now i feel i'm not alone, i fell better , :wink: this is my msn gunnarbenja hotmail.com ,
good luck to all !!
good luck to all !!
Imsoscared
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I'm the complete opposite, no one thinks im gay but actually.. i am. i only accepted myself as being gay about 2 years ago, and im yet to come out to my parents. im quite outgoing and very 'straight acting' so when i tell people they cannot believe it. But best advice i can give you is, who cares if people think your gay as long as you know what you are, then ignore these fools. probably the people who take the micky are the ones who are unsure of themselves.
My sexuality has been questioned numerous times by people in my own family and to me that is the worse. My grandmother, my dad, an aunt, and cousins have all asked me if I'm gay. It really really hurts my feelings and makes me feel so awful. They think that because I am 21 and I don't have a boyfriend and have never been on a date that I am gay. Well, I AM NOT GAY. I want a boyfriend really bad but situations in my life have just made it very difficult. So I definitely understand where you all are coming from.
