Birdman said:
I have not seen anyone that has gotten help from an SSRI being prescribed
That will heavily depend on where you look. Web forums can be misleading, as people with complaints are much more apt to post than people for whom they are working decently. I myself benefitted from an SSRI, but I rarely mention it because it was only a part of a long process of self-improvement. It helped greatly, but in the sense that a crutch helps an injured person to walk—the walking is the important part.
I think also that people are often disappointed that any given medication they take does not grant them the level of relief that they had anticipated, and may be prone to blame the drug for not meeting those expectations, rather than applauding what effect they do have. This is probably most common with SSRIs because they are typically the first such drug that a person tries, and they can take as much as a month to have any remarkable positive effect.
Birdman said:
1. How long did it take to get a Benzo or an MAOI prescribed after taking your first SSRI Med? Did you ask for it or did your Doc mention it to you.
Several months after starting an SSRI, I had a severe panic attack, and I was prescribed a small amount of Xanax
pro re nata, or "as needed". My understanding is that this is a very common situation. SSRIs are long-acting and have a very diffuse effect, benzos are short-acting and have a very direct and obvious effect. The complement one another nicely.
Potent benzos can give you the feeling of having no anxiety at all, but they are so brief and have such a dulling effect that they can hardly be considered a long-term treatment. Becoming reliant on them is no way to fix your social anxiety, but having them available can be very useful.
I believe most psychiatrists would prescribe some benzo for this purpose for a patient reporting panic attacks, regardless of whether you were to ask.
Birdman said:
2. What med worked best for you?
For daily use, Wellbutrin, which is not commonly prescribed for SA/SP. I made no particularly great strides while taking it, but as far as overall positive effect on my mental health, it was great at the time. And Xanax, during exceptionally tense moments in my life, was a godsend. Fluoxetine (Prozac) was the only SSRI I've taken, and it was instrumental in my getting out of the associated depression that kept me from doing anything about my anxiety.
None of them had the lasting effect that self-awareness and learning to take control of my own mind has, though.
Birdman said:
3. how much percent do you think your cured.
Difficult to answer. For some activities, approaching 100%, but for others, 0%. Again though, the medication is only a tool to make improvement easier. It depends on what you work towards. If you take medication but don't go out and try to push your boundaries, you won't see any lasting benefit.
Birdman said:
4. If you are better at what times do you start to feel your anxiety coming back
Any time I am pushing my boundaries farther than I have before. The thing is, the more I do it, the larger my comfort zone gets, and the more rarely I have to do this. I have also gotten far better at dealing with the anxiety, so that even when I experience it, I can dissipate it enough to do what I need to do.