What to Say in this Type of Situation

[spikefan777]

At least twice a day I'm asked "Why are you so quiet?" or "Why don't you say something?"
If I'm fortunate enough not to be asked either question, it'll be "Your so quiet." or "You haven't said anything."

How should I respond to these type of comments and questions? As bad as it sounds, I want there to be something I can say to make the other person look incredibly stupid or unintelligent. :evil:

 

[scatmantom]

If I was surronded by people I found interesting I would talk.

Thats a bit nasty...so you could also try if I had something I wanted to say I would say it...might offend people less.

 

[corrinaelizabeth]

hi I know what u mean i get sick of ppl saying that 2 me I just feel lke saying this is me if u dont like it y be my m8!!!!!

 

[spikefan777]

If I was surronded by people I found interesting I would talk.

Thats a bit nasty...so you could also try if I had something I wanted to say I would say it...might offend people less.

Yeah, the people I'm thinking of are friends or aqquaintances rather. I'm not trying to insult the entire group of people I eat lunch with, I just want to get my point across that, their asking me a dumb question that I don't have the answer to.

hi I know what u mean i get sick of ppl saying that 2 me I just feel lke saying this is me if u dont like it y be my m8!!!!!

M8? Mate? Lol, it took me a while to get that.

Yeah, exactly. I don't think that they can call themselves my friends if they feel the need to repeat themselves expecting me to give them a new answer.

 

[Jack-B]

Dude,

Why are you so quiet? polite one-liners:

" thanks for being concerned, im just fine thanks"
" excuse me, my mind is actually tranquilly abiding on the meaning of life "
" i dont talk much because i dont feel like it"
" You like to talk, i like to be quiet"

light hearted:
" i was tortured by a serial killer, i survived, i cant be arsed to tell you what happened after that, im still in shock"
" Because if i speak, i will get anxious and will blow up, not a pretty sight!"
" Because i love listening to you instead"
" I'm sorry does my quietness make you feel insecure? "
" you like to talk, i like to act"

 

[spikefan777]

Dude,

Why are you so quiet? polite one-liners:

" thanks for being concerned, im just fine thanks"
" excuse me, my mind is actually tranquilly abiding on the meaning of life "
" i dont talk much because i dont feel like it"
" You like to talk, i like to be quiet"

light hearted:
" i was tortured by a serial killer, i survived, i cant be arsed to tell you what happened after that, im still in shock"
" Because if i speak, i will get anxious and will blow up, not a pretty sight!"
" Because i love listening to you instead"
" I'm sorry does my quietness make you feel insecure? "
" you like to talk, i like to act"

LOVE THEM! Your a genius!

 

[Falcon]

I'd say something like "I'm more of an observer than a talker. I like people watching. See that person over there ..."

 

[Quixote]

When it happened to me in the past, a few times I would look somewhat surprised and a bit puzzled by such an odd an personal remark: "Quiet? What do you mean?" followed by an enquiring look that meant "Are you stupid, that you come up with a question like this all of a sudden?"

It really worked for me, but the effectiveness of it depends on your level of anxiety, and on your personality of course. Falcon's suggestion of "manouvering" so as to start a conversation is also very good I think.

 

[Predacon]

Thats a tough one, how do you answer thier question truthfully without coming off rude. I guess you have to judge your response to the person and the place, so that it is appropriate.

 

[Emma]

What do you say to that?
I usually don't say anything, or I just shrug, or mumble I don't know, what do people want you to say?

 

[Descartes]

"Tis better to remain silent, and thoughtful, than to open your mouth, and remove all doubt."

 

[BrokenSmile]

ask them something like
" Why are you such a chatbox?".
"Does your mouth hurt you after you talk like this?".
"stop a minute to take a breath and then you can talk again. i'm worry about you". :twisted:

 

[pjam76]

depends

While all the advice sounds great, I think one problem comes from the fact that if you are quiet, you probably aren't going to be thinking about the thousands of responses to that question.

Your quiet cause you are quiet... if you aren't talking to begin with, it's probably going to be a lot harder to come up with a sly negative or positive response. Or if you do come up with one, you probably won't say it anyway.

The fact is people look at quiet people as weird.. People have also heard the saying, "gotta watch those quiet ones."

Sometimes it's a polite response... People want to interact, people want to socialize.... We are a social species. So if your not talking, people will wonder what's wrong with you.

What do you say?

Who knows, because like I said, all those responses people gave are nice, but the fact is, if you aren't talking as it is, you probably aren't going to get up that much courage to say something that might offend people or make them laugh.

If it's lunch.. .. Just keep it simple...... Tell them your eating.

Because you don't want to come off as rude, cause at the end of the day, especially if it's like a work lunch, you are not the person who will be defending yourself to everybody, cause you don't talk.

YOu'll be the person people look down upon cause others speak about you.

Just relax and eat...If they say why are you quiet...just tell them you're eating.....

Just make sure always to eat slowly.

 

[abc1234]

I get asked the same thing more then id like.What i do is when people ask me that i look them in the eye and scream IS THAT LOUD ENOUGH FOR YOU haha lol i wish i could do that what i really do is just shug my shoulders and just look down and just mumble words and say i dont know i just am SO BACK OFF

 

[Bearly]

I dislike that question also, but I wouldn't say something rude, as you will probably feel bad or uncomforable about that later when you see that person again. Perhaps bring up a subject that you like to talk about. Or you can say something like "oh I was just thinking, but I enjoy conversations. What would you like to talk about." This puts the burden on them to come up with an interesting topic of discussion and puts them on the spot instead of you. Do you have any interests or hobbies, discuss those or talk about the latest news.

If you are totally uncomfortable talking with people, these suggestions won't work, but if you are just having trouble finding subject matter or common interests, perhaps these ideas will help.

 

[Sable]

I hate that. I had this one job where everyone used to say that kind of thing. There was one girl who, while we were working used to say things like 'boo' or 'speak' about every 2 minutes. Of course I could never say anything coherent, but the annoying thing was that she never made any attempt to start a conversation either. I've given up trying to say something witty when confronted with those questions, so I just smile.

 

[ShaNeaNea19]

http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/viewtopic.php?t=46381

 

[Warlock]

Say because its difficult for you to talk.

 

[DarkMoon]

I think this question came up on another one of the Forums.....not sure which one but a funny suggestion was something to the effect of:

'I am in training to be a ninja/secret agent'

That's pretty funny and it means that you don't have to get angry and say something that you will regret.