what to do with life?

[tupac]

im 19 years old but im at the point where i dont know what to do with my life. im not going to school and have no job. i've heard someone say that this is the time where you become the person you will be for the rest of your life. i feel like my life i shit and is headed nowhere. anyone else feel like this? that there life is headed no where but down the gutter. and one more thing when older people see you having a diffcult time and they be like "i know what your goign through, i went through the same thing when i was a kid", thats bullshit cause i bet they aint got SA, and it makes me mad cause they cant relate and i cant tell them whats wrong. plus i feel like everybody i know my age is just too childish and i cant trust anyone. so to everybody thats around my age, what the hell do we do. this is supose to be the time of our lives and its gonna go by and were gonna miss it. im so stuck, what to do?

 

[Jesse]

Hey Tupac,

I am 22 and have been dealing with SA for a while now, so I know exactly how you feel. I have similar thoughts that my life is going nowhere. I also think about how this should be the time of my life and I should be changing into the person I am going to be for the rest of my life. In reality, I think all these statements are true. If we continue to put up walls and burn bridges to avoid anxiety then nothing will change. I wish there was a miracle answer too, but it looks like it will take alot of work to make things better. There is hope though; you can find it by reading the many success stories on the internet. Others have beat this and we can too.

Today was the first day of my summer semester, so normally a very anxious day, but it went smoothly, except for the dreaded mandatory introduction to the entire class. I still get the panic feeling as it gets closer and closer for me to stand up and talk about myself.

Good luck and keep us updated on your progress

 

[Sebastian]

While you figure out what you want to do, try to live life and try to build your life. Do the activities you like and try to look for possible solutions (for SP, for school, for work, etc.). The first thing to do is to get informed as much as possible to see what your choices are. Look for information everywhere, internet, TV, newspapers, acquaintances, family, etc. The more you know, the better it is.

 

[Crimefish]

A lot of people don't figure out what they want to do 'til they're like 30. So I always thought it was stupid that at 14 we have to choose our subjects at school that will determine our career.
I know what I want to do, but I have serious doubts about whether I'll be able to do it, because I'm (legally) both mentally and physically disabled.
I want to become fluent in Japanese and get better at drawing, so I can be a manga-ka (Japanese comic artist). And I also want to be a voice actor for anime.
I also want to design and make my own clothes and sell a bunch in an ebay store. This one is realistic 'cause there's no deadlines and I get to work from home.

 

[Angie_05]

Tupac,
19 is NOT the age to have your life figured out. Most of us choose a career goal at 18 because we are forced to by college entrance. Luckily, I've known since high school that I wanted to get a Ph.d. in psychology, but I know that if it doesn't work out I will find something else to do.

You are so lucky that you are able to not go to school or work right now. That will change someday. I would definitely take advantage of your time and do what you love and spend time getting to know yourself.

 

[Angie_05]

I also want to design and make my own clothes and sell a bunch in an ebay store. This one is realistic 'cause there's no deadlines and I get to work from home.

I am an ebayer. Me and my bf sell new and using clothing on ebay. It is so much fun. You can control everything and there are no bosses to tell you what to do. The time you spend on it is so flexibe as well. I started after I quit my customer service job. Ebay makes me a little nervous sometimes, like when a customer gets mad at me because they think I didn't send their package when I did. But it is a good job for someone with SA.

 

[r0ck0ut04]

same thing

Hey man im going through the same thing ive had social anxiety since i was 18 im 23 now. Ive wasted five years of my life sitting around driving my self crazy, which did nothing but made me bitter and angry. Then i had to explain to people why i havent done anything in a long time and they never understand. All my friends and family think im just some lazy person which is not the case. When i was 18 i would have never thought in five years i wouldnt accomplish anything. Im just getting myself together now i joined the airforce thats the only resort i feel ive left myself wasting those couple years where i should have been out accomplishing things. Im now realizing you have to force yourself to do things you dont want to do somtimes but you know it will pay off. Im just trying to save you some trouble, try to do anything, school , some work just get out of the house. My Sa is starting to ease up because i dont care about it anymore and i feel im getting to old to quick. Just remeber lifes not a popularity contest live for yourself and those you care about. Sorry for the long post

 

[tupac]

thanks for the input guys. i think im gonna go see a doctor. i dont know how im gonna work up the courage to do that but i'll give it a shot.