What causes you to NOT have anxiety?

[still-shy]

For me it would be:

1. If I have a 'reputation' when meeting new people. So like, if I meet someone and they aready know or heard something about me. It takes the pressure off to have to 'sell myself' by talking. Now, I can just be like "yup" and then shut up. Otherwise I'd have to be funny and charming.

2. If I'm with someone. Instant recognition that I'm friend-worthy.

3. If I'm with a girl. Even better.

4. If I'm with a girl-friend. More even better.

5. If the people are overtly beneath me socially. The rarity of meeting people who are actually less socially-inclined as myself is so liberating. I feel what it's like to be 'on the other side of the fence'.

6. If I just had a previous social experience so my 'throat is warmed up'. Say I had my twice-a-year conversation with some people, then as I leave, I have 'the feeling' still in me. So anyone I run across within the next few hours I'll feel perfectly calm and relaxed, and words just slide out as if my throats been lubed with teflon..

7. I'm "doing something". Also a rarity, but if I'm in the middle of doing something that's not under my own doing.. like for example say a neighbor asks me to help move some heavy boxes to their car.

8. Smoke meth. Too bad that stuff is bad for ya. I don't recommend this one.

9. First day of new (job|class|or any other new thing you start). I'm always good on the first day. It's the following weeks and months where the problem lies.

10. Old people. You can never feel anxious around old people..

 

[dan_e]

-drinking
-doing something with a friend instead of alone

 

[noblame4]

The right kind of booze, the right kind of people (very rare.) and the right kind of music.

 

[mustang]

-Riding my motorcycle
-Watching a movie
-Joking around at work
-When around my immediate family
-On unusual terms; it snows, halloween, its raining, and I'll feel that people are paying more attention to the environment than myself.

 

[Sacrament]

Exercising while watching TV or outside while listening to music.

 

[Premo]

um

listening to music or organizing something

 

[desperatehousewife]

You say here, you are better in the first day of your Job.In my opinion and according to my experiences, yes, all people in workplace behave you well and do not do something bad and they try to tknow you.That is because you feel well.

But the other part of issue is you can not learn the job in your first day.Day by day, you learn it, so while doing your job, you can not be relax in the first day...Because you do not know nothing, everybody is watching you whether you will do the job or not.You are obligated to ask questions, some co-workers answer it , some does not...For me, it is so.

 

[boro]

For me it would be:


6. If I just had a previous social experience so my 'throat is warmed up'. Say I had my twice-a-year conversation with some people, then as I leave, I have 'the feeling' still in me. So anyone I run across within the next few hours I'll feel perfectly calm and relaxed, and words just slide out as if my throats been lubed with teflon..

Same with me. But its so frustrating that this 'feeling' goes away within a few hours. Even if it stays for the entire day im guaranteed to be back to square one the next morning when i wake up no matter how vivid my memory of it.

 

[sketchy24]

-At night. I can walk out and not feel anxiety in the least in the middle of the night. I'm comfortable, confident. I wish it was always night
-Around immediate family
-Discussing something I'm familiar with or very interested in. If someone can get me talking about something we're both interested, I wont shut up
-Music
-Walking around naked down the street
-k not really about the last one.

But the other part of issue is you can not learn the job in your first day.Day by day, you learn it, so while doing your job, you can not be relax in the first day...Because you do not know nothing, everybody is watching you whether you will do the job or not.You are obligated to ask questions, some co-workers answer it , some does not...For me, it is so.

I completely relate... I wish I could go back in time knowing all I know now and start over from day one. I think I would be more comfortable at work. Wouldn't have missed all the opportunities to make friends. Now I'm just kind of the "quiet skinny guy".... so no one really tries to talk to me anymore. And if we do get going on something, the next day I practically feel I'm starting over and the person may be like "You gonna say high?!" and I don't seem to say much so then they don't try anymore. Oh well...

 

[Fairy001]

The night is better than the day for anixety I find, no expectations except sleep. Also my cats, they are very theraputic, as most people find their pets.


Fairy xxx

 

[Gone]

If im asleep or with someone i know very well.

 

[moody]

if its snowing or raining
when i'm with my immediate family
when i'm in the presence of a particular guy i like, he always make me feel relaxed

 

[tpdarlo]

- Alcohol
- Having a purpose when doing something
- Talking to people who are themselves shy
- Lying in bed with someone and talking
- Obviously in scenarios when instincts take over, such when you're jogging or during sex

 

[Coper]

5. If the people are overtly beneath me socially. The rarity of meeting people who are actually less socially-inclined as myself is so liberating. I feel what it's like to be 'on the other side of the fence'.

- Talking to people who are themselves shy

Really? I feel almost the exact opposite way. Other shy people make me so uncomfortable. I'm afraid to talk to them and they're afraid to talk to me, so we don't talk. We just feel awkward. And I'm very sensitive to other people's discomfort; it makes me feel less comfortable. On the other hand, if I meet a very nice person who reaches out to me socially, that often puts me at ease and allows me to open up a little.

 

[Sikwitit]

Talking to girls 1 on 1 the irony.... :lol: i have a fear of big groups but not the hott girl everybody wants to hook up with?

Also when im drinking or smoking i really dont give a rats ass i talk so much trash i never shut up i wish i was like that all the time.

 

[dont_swallow]

For me it would be:

1. If I have a 'reputation' when meeting new people. So like, if I meet someone and they aready know or heard something about me. It takes the pressure off to have to 'sell myself' by talking. Now, I can just be like "yup" and then shut up. Otherwise I'd have to be funny and charming.

2. If I'm with someone. Instant recognition that I'm friend-worthy.

3. If I'm with a girl. Even better.

4. If I'm with a girl-friend. More even better.

5. If the people are overtly beneath me socially. The rarity of meeting people who are actually less socially-inclined as myself is so liberating. I feel what it's like to be 'on the other side of the fence'.

6. If I just had a previous social experience so my 'throat is warmed up'. Say I had my twice-a-year conversation with some people, then as I leave, I have 'the feeling' still in me. So anyone I run across within the next few hours I'll feel perfectly calm and relaxed, and words just slide out as if my throats been lubed with teflon..

7. I'm "doing something". Also a rarity, but if I'm in the middle of doing something that's not under my own doing.. like for example say a neighbor asks me to help move some heavy boxes to their car.

8. Smoke meth. Too bad that stuff is bad for ya. I don't recommend this one.

9. First day of new (job|class|or any other new thing you start). I'm always good on the first day. It's the following weeks and months where the problem lies.

10. Old people. You can never feel anxious around old people..

Dude, nearly all of them are great - made me laugh out loud cos they're so spot on.

I would have to add exercising. Sometimes I get nervous that I'm breathing too heavily, but if you're not too close to other people, it's all good....

 

[Zarrix]

For me it would be:


6. If I just had a previous social experience so my 'throat is warmed up'. Say I had my twice-a-year conversation with some people, then as I leave, I have 'the feeling' still in me. So anyone I run across within the next few hours I'll feel perfectly calm and relaxed, and words just slide out as if my throats been lubed with teflon..

Same with me. But its so frustrating that this 'feeling' goes away within a few hours. Even if it stays for the entire day im guaranteed to be back to square one the next morning when i wake up no matter how vivid my memory of it.

I love it when I get this calm feeling. Only happens a couple of times a month, but damn, it feels a lot better when it does happen. By the next morning, as you's have said, it usually disappears. =(

 

[_Brittany_]

vacationing
animals
reading a good book!
being around kids

 

[Lotrsfan]

Going out with someone else than on my own.

Old people. I don't feel anxious around them for some reason maybe it's because they look and are sometimes more friendier. (and If i'm going for an interview or something i sometimes like it better if the person i am seeing is in their 50s or 60s than seeing someone in 20's or 30s)

Animals. I'm not shy around my pets and they help me relax and have someone to talk too when i feel alone

Talking on the computer than in reallife and specially talking to someone who has social phobia too.

Having something to do like watch tv, do cross-stitch, read a magazine when in the same room as someone you don't or hardly know. Then you don't feel ackward in what to do, how to look at the person and stuff.

Lazing around sitting in the garden on a sunny day with none of my sister's friends or bf round our house to make me feel anxious lol

 

[CPA23]

I am very comfortable around old people. I guess this is so because I grew up going to church every Sunday and I was always around my grandma's friends. I guess I feel that older people are less judgmental (not necessarily true) and therefore I am at ease. My grandma sometimes calls me "old man" because I am very mature for my age. Little does she know that my anxiety is mainly the reason.