We have it easy?!

[JackBauer113]

Oh yeah! Of course we have it easy. We don't have to overcome anything! We aren't even trying! :roll:

I don't know how many times I've been told this by friends or family, but right now I realize what UTTER BULL SHIT this lie really is! You know, I'm glad things aren't hard for them. I'm glad they are sooooo tough as nails and can handle anything life throws at them. Good for them!

You know the type of people. The cocky, macho, mylifeishardedthanyou, fuckwads. The people that are fortunate enough to be able to handle annnnything life throws at them, yet seems to think that as "outcasts" we are nothing. They act all pissy whenever anyone is accomadated in anyway, thinking they are trying to make life easier on themselves (and if they are, GOOD FOR THEM!). Yet can't get it through their tiny little skull how fortunate they are NOT to require any accomadations!

It's so easy to just sit their and judge people as "lazy" and "weak" but I bet if they had any kind of disorder their macho attitude would disappear. Society just loves to lable anyone that doesn't fit their "succesful" standard as unworthy, yet if people understood what people with anxiety or anything like that have to go through EVERY day of their lifes, then perhaps they would STFU and thank their lucky stars that they have passed societies test and don't have to live like we do!

I guess this rant could fit in hundreds of other forums, but since SA has been the biggest obstical for me and the one that even close friends don't understand, I had to let this rant out here.

 

[SilentType]

Yeah all my family and friends have no clue what I'm going through either. I can always tell that they think I'm weak whenever I say I don't want to go somewhere.

I've been hanging out with old friends that I haven't seen in like a month and they've all continued their opiate fiending ways. I must point out that these types of people are easy for me to hang out with though. They just like to sit around and pass time til tey get more drugs lol. I mean, I used o be the same for a while, and I still do smoke herb regularly to relax at the end of the day, but I've just seen too many people change dramatically due to opiates, and I can't stand them anymorel. I guess I'm just growing out of that phase after being urged into it at about 15 years old... I'm now 19 and moving on with my life after dropping out of 3 out of 4 semesters of college just because I couldnt stand sitting in the classroom (sweat, stutter, heart racing, jaw clenching, etc) and because of the fact that I was the anxious to create relationships with people. Even in my apartment building are people sitting around me in class.

I've got college lined up again and I'm really committed this time and due to the fact that its online I can't wait to get started. I mean, I don't do anything anyways except sit in front of the computer and television, so having something productive to do is going to be nice. It's going to be nice to not have anybody to tell me that I'm to weak to do my job now, because that will be online.

What a ramble.

Peace

 

[JackBauer113]

I'm more of a net surfer myself. And some people I know seem to think that it's some sort of sin to spend all your free time doing something you enjoy because it doesn't fit their bill as "fun" or "worthwhile". Almost to the point of guilt just for living life the way I feel comfortable. I now realize that just because I don't find parties and rock concerts fun doesn't make me a bad person!

 

[SilentType]

Good for you Jack. Keep looking for the inner peace, its theonly way to go when you're one of us.

Peace

 

[emmdee]

I know what you mean...a lot.

 

[Foxglove]

Absolutely right. I constantly have to deal with people thinking I'm just to lazy to get a job, that as "just a housewife" I sit around all day enjoying life. If they only knew, if they only were forced to live my life for a year, or even just for a month, they would know that living this way is like hell on earth.

 

[SilentType]

Everyday I deal with all the people around me who think my net surfing/watching/ tv/video games/studying and working online is weird. They think I should getnout and do more and have more experiences, but you know what.... I'm perfectly happy being the person that I am for right now because I have built a life out of what I have that makes my anxiety as little of a problem as possible. That's what everyone with SA should do. I'm living at home with my parents right now so I can't totally de-anxiety (if thats a word) my home life as I would if I had my own place. Once you have a safe haven to go to whenever your SA acts up, it gives you a feeling of relief that you have somewhere safe to go during an anxiety attack.

When you have SA, life is really all about keeping yourself happy and keeping your mind off your anxiety. If there are people in your life who kind of barricade that goal, then there no reason to have anything to do with them.

Eventually you'll find friends or family members who have your well being in mind when you're with them. You also have to keep that same frame of mind, just doing little things that make them happy like holding doors open, keeping a smile on your face, not talking about depressing subjects, etc.

I know I've taken this a bit further than I had to, but I just want everyone with SA to know that you can't allow other peoples' opinions of you form you mental image of yourself. Everyone with SA runs into people who think we just need to "open up and be yourself." These people are ignorant. That's all you need to know. Keep your heads up people

Peace

 

[JackBauer113]

Everyday I deal with all the people around me who think my net surfing/watching/ tv/video games/studying and working online is weird. They think I should getnout and do more and have more experiences, but you know what.... I'm perfectly happy being the person that I am for right now because I have built a life out of what I have that makes my anxiety as little of a problem as possible. That's what everyone with SA should do. I'm living at home with my parents right now so I can't totally de-anxiety (if thats a word) my home life as I would if I had my own place. Once you have a safe haven to go to whenever your SA acts up, it gives you a feeling of relief that you have somewhere safe to go during an anxiety attack.

When you have SA, life is really all about keeping yourself happy and keeping your mind off your anxiety. If there are people in your life who kind of barricade that goal, then there no reason to have anything to do with them.

Eventually you'll find friends or family members who have your well being in mind when you're with them. You also have to keep that same frame of mind, just doing little things that make them happy like holding doors open, keeping a smile on your face, not talking about depressing subjects, etc.

I know I've taken this a bit further than I had to, but I just want everyone with SA to know that you can't allow other peoples' opinions of you form you mental image of yourself. Everyone with SA runs into people who think we just need to "open up and be yourself." These people are ignorant. That's all you need to know. Keep your heads up people

Peace

They no longer intimidate me. I have come to the same conclusion that not even family have any right to tell me what to enjoy or what I *should* be enjoying. I'm in no way hurting anyone and it's not as if what I do for fun has any effect on them. So we make life easier on ourselves, is that *really* such a bad thing? You can say life isn't easy, but if someone can find something to make life easier for them, then they should not be held back!

I will never understand those kind of people.

 

[SilentType]

Amen to that!

 

[Some_guy]

Worse thing to me is that then, in addition to your social anxiety you gotta deal with guilt.

THAT sucks

 

[Foxglove]

Worse thing to me is that then, in addition to your social anxiety you gotta deal with guilt.

THAT sucks

Boy, you got that right. Guilt is one of my most felt emotions. Guilt, fear, anger, boredom, hopelessness. . .