AnxiousGuy said:
Ya know...this thread jumped out at me. LOL! I'm glad you started it instead of me cause I know there are folks who hate it when your trying to give constructive criticism that may help them.
Lol! i await the hate mail...
nah it's a tough one, i just had a major anti-wallowing moment for a second! Cos i post positive stuff, not just on this forum, and i want everyone to get better....but i'm starting to realise some people don't actually want to get better. Well they DO but at the same time they're trapped in this wallowing state of mind, so they will never get out.
And it's tough cos SA is really horrible and hard to deal with and so yeh people are upset and sad and depressed, understandable. I had to vent when i first came on here and i am REALLY GRATEFUL i was able to and got sympathy from all you nice people. It was only then i thought, well i want to think positive now.
You shouldn't be hard-hearted to yourself and say you don't DESERVE to wallow exactly. But our minds trick us...they can make us think wallowing is actually GOOD for us. We think we are 'winning' if we get to wallow, we say 'i have a RIGHT to wallow'. But what is this all about?! Wallowing makes us feel terrible, even more down, focus on the bad, not be able to see a way out, and hate positive people that come up with ideas.
When it is actually in YOUR interest to think positive. You're actually 'winning' alot more if you think positive. Hell, you could think your day, your life was amazing if you wanted to! And your day would be so much better for it. If you focus on the positives you feel good. Fact. If you try to get out of SA, you might just get out of SA. And that would be great for you! You would 'win'!