Two very good articles ;)

[ShyBeliever]

Hey everybody,

Hope youre doing fine. Just passed by to share with you two articles that really made me thinking.

I think the main cause of my shyness and social avoidance is my lack of conversation skills with people. I become nervous and my mind often goes blank and then i dont know what to say. Because of the anxiety i can barely listen what the other person is saying and then i just block.

I tried and tried several ways to overcome this. I´ve been really trying to focus harder on the conversation and in what i should say, but often my mind get exhausted and drained with this and then my brain basically shuts down completely. But maybe im doing exactly the opposite of what i really should do.

Maybe we try to focus too hard in what people are saying. Maybe we think too much in what we´re going to say. Maybe we should listen and speak with your subconscious and just leave our words come in a natural flow.

Here are the articles:

Is Thinking Too Much Keeping You Shy? | Shyness-Social-Anxiety.com

Don't Know What To Talk About? Here's Why... | Shyness-Social-Anxiety.com

Hope you find this interesting.

Hugs and kisses to everybody
Please never give up!!!

 

[psych]

How Do I Talk About Nothing?

Did you ever see someone you’d like to say “Hello” to, and then proceed to play out exactly how you’re going to say it and what funny remark you’re going to say?

Don’t do that. First of all, it’s too much effort to think through everything you’re going to say. It’s like having a “filter” between a brain and your mouth, only letting through the few remarks that pass your high standards.

You have to stop thinking about what you’re going to say before you say it. Don’t think when you’re talking. Don’t decide on what you’re going to say.

Keep your mind completely blank, and just let whatever wants to come out, come out.

Essentially, what you’re doing is making talking subconscious. You stop relying on your brain and start relying on your instincts and “gut feeling”. You no longer have to actively think about or worry about what you’re going to say next. This does take some getting used to, but soon find small talk a breeze and actually really FUN!

Bad idea for someone like me.

If I don't think at least a little about what is going to come out of my mouth... I'll say the most honest, seriously impacting, most inappropriate thing... Because I hate small talk. I suck at it. & Yes, like the article says, I find it boring.

I do applaud that these links were dropped to help others, & will take what I can from it and use it.
So, that would mean thinking a little, but not too much... & To allow myself to have relaxing, shallow conversations with folks.