charlieHungerford
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Hey everyone, hope everyone is well on this last work day before Christmas.
I read about a theory about what we need to do in order to overcome SA, and it was the most interesting theory I have heard so far because it sounds like it could be the quickest way to achieve it.
Unfortunatly I have not even thought about or heard about any way of doing this. But the theory is basically to turn the monitor off. Not monitor as in computer, but you know how we are so self aware, so self conscious, always judging our own performance, always critical of ourselves, always aware of the situations we are in and how we will cope in the situation, always knowing what we are capable of.
Basically its like we are always monitoring ourselves. When we are in anxious situations we happen to be monitoring ourselves to the extreme, so self aware, we are purely focusing on how we are doing to the point where we are evaluating how we are doing. This monitoring we are doing has to be turned down as much as possible, ideally we need to turn it off.
Because think of situations where we are not anxious and we are feeling confident and calm - i.e. friends and family and maybe strangers (you know who you are not anxious around) - you will notice that the monitor is either off or just only slightly on. We are allowing ourselves to just be ourselves to be ourselves, we are not focusing on how we are doing and how people are likely to be judging us, we are simply living the situation as ourselves.
What we need to do is learn to stop monitoring ourselves, stop focusing on ourselves and what people are probably thinking. We need to stop being self aware basically - turn the monitor off.
I find this approach interesting and exciting because the other way around the problem seems to be create a positive self image, desensitise all of your perceived flaws so you are not self conscious about them, work on understanding that people are not judging you negatively in every situation you find yourself in, etc - and by this point you should be thinking positive about yourself and not fearing that people are judging you negatively. But to do all that sounds like a long process.
So could the answer be to find a way of turning the monitor off? To no longer be self aware and allow yourself to be yourself?
What do you think? If anyone would like to work with me at trying to find a way of doing this, you know where I am!
I read about a theory about what we need to do in order to overcome SA, and it was the most interesting theory I have heard so far because it sounds like it could be the quickest way to achieve it.
Unfortunatly I have not even thought about or heard about any way of doing this. But the theory is basically to turn the monitor off. Not monitor as in computer, but you know how we are so self aware, so self conscious, always judging our own performance, always critical of ourselves, always aware of the situations we are in and how we will cope in the situation, always knowing what we are capable of.
Basically its like we are always monitoring ourselves. When we are in anxious situations we happen to be monitoring ourselves to the extreme, so self aware, we are purely focusing on how we are doing to the point where we are evaluating how we are doing. This monitoring we are doing has to be turned down as much as possible, ideally we need to turn it off.
Because think of situations where we are not anxious and we are feeling confident and calm - i.e. friends and family and maybe strangers (you know who you are not anxious around) - you will notice that the monitor is either off or just only slightly on. We are allowing ourselves to just be ourselves to be ourselves, we are not focusing on how we are doing and how people are likely to be judging us, we are simply living the situation as ourselves.
What we need to do is learn to stop monitoring ourselves, stop focusing on ourselves and what people are probably thinking. We need to stop being self aware basically - turn the monitor off.
I find this approach interesting and exciting because the other way around the problem seems to be create a positive self image, desensitise all of your perceived flaws so you are not self conscious about them, work on understanding that people are not judging you negatively in every situation you find yourself in, etc - and by this point you should be thinking positive about yourself and not fearing that people are judging you negatively. But to do all that sounds like a long process.
So could the answer be to find a way of turning the monitor off? To no longer be self aware and allow yourself to be yourself?
What do you think? If anyone would like to work with me at trying to find a way of doing this, you know where I am!