too many things, too little energy

[lifesnotfair]

with my other posts that i have put up, i feel that trying something new for me is out of the question. Going out and meeting new people, socializing more, is COMPLETELY out of the question. It takes all my energy just to get out of bed and work all day. On my days off it takes every minute just to get my strength backup to work another 5 days. So tell me, when do i have a chance to get out?

I just feel there isn't any time for me to do that stuff. People say i should join a club, well.. there is nothing that i enjoy. Yes, that might mean that i don't meet anyone, but seriously, i never got the chance to go out when i was younger, i lived quite aways away from any large place to visit or hang out. I never really have any friends that i can count on or be supportive. I am so shy that whenever i try and speak to someone that i don't know, i basically i make an excuse not to talk to that person.

I feel that anything i do is not going to work. I feel that nothing anyone suggests will help me. IF that is the case, i think i can deal with that more than i can deal with more rejection, and attemping futile attempts to make my social life better.

Well whatever, i seriously am thinking about just giving up more and more every day.

 

[CyclingSoPhob]

Certainly don't give up. I'm kind of in the same predicament with everything competing for my time as well as money. It sounds like you have a very demanding job like myself. Something to think about though is that staying at home during the weekend can actually make you more lethargic. Getting out and doing something active will boost your energy level, just don't overdo it.

 

[stardog]

Hi LNF, you've been posting here for years now, like me...

Whatever you've been doing this long isn't working, is it? Same here. But if we don't get help, nothing will happen. It might, but it probably won't...

Change is gradual, not immediate. This kind of black-and-white thinking you've got going on now is not helping you.

I don't have any real advice, I guess, just seek help, but people were saying that to you when you posted yonks ago, and nothings changed, so I don't expect you to change now. I just feel really sad that you're still in the same boat mate, I wish I could help. I've still got a lot of issues with SA, but I'm getting help, and things are slowly getting better. Changing your thoughts is a very slow process, which is UNREWARDING initially.

Please, get help, whether it's a self-help program, or therapy, whatever. But you need to take more constructive action than just posting on here.