This site helped me.

[eckoz]

Hello.

Just wanted to say this website helped me a good deal. and i only found out about this site a month ago. i never knew my thoughts had so much social anxiety/phobia tendencies, untill after reading peoples posts on here. I always just thought thats the way i think and there is nothing i can do.

Anyway after i read here and then went out in the real world,i could pick out my social anxiety thoughts so clearly. like for example excesisvly caring what a specific person i dont know thinks of me as i walk by, and it being hard to look them in the eye etc... Its weird though, because i dont get this from EVERY person. its typically a good looking girl or someone that looks generally cool. and by look cool i mean to my perception of cool, but lets not get into that..

i don't know is that weird? anyway after i became more aware of these thoughts i found it really easy to just brush them off and not care. the main thing i always say to myself is why do i care? i really have no reason to. and believe it or not, that actually works for me and i just stop caring and all those stupid thoughts go away. I used to always avoid eye contact with people but im finding now that i can walk by someone and look them directly in the eyes, and even smile sometimes.

Of course im not cured completely, but i find the more and more i train myself to think this way the less those ugly thoughts are occuring, and i just generally feel like im able to relax a whole lot more, and enjoy life more. it feels great.

Anyway, sorry for the extremely long post. And thank you to whoever made this website

 

[eckoz]

woops

 

[eckoz]

thanks for the responses everyone. I can now see this sites generally posters only cater to posting in someones negative thread with a "i feel the same way" or something along those lines. anyway, ill likely never be posting here again. peace

 

[Sacrament]

That's the spirit.

 

[faithnomore]

thanks for the responses everyone. I can now see this sites generally posters only cater to posting in someones negative thread with a "i feel the same way" or something along those lines. anyway, ill likely never be posting here again. peace

People can be socially anxious online too...

Anyway, new members arrive, like me for instance. If somethings worth adding to, i'll add to it.

 

[Kien]

This site helped me too. I got a few great friends. :3

 

[mushawah]

how do u brush off those feelings,i understand my SA,to a point,but i cant just brush them off.I guess deep down i think its helping me,i hate my deep down self

 

[Carol]

thanks for the responses everyone. I can now see this sites generally posters only cater to posting in someones negative thread with a "i feel the same way" or something along those lines. anyway, ill likely never be posting here again. peace

Did I miss something? It sounds like you're mad because you posted something at 8:00 one night and nobody responded by 7:00 the next morning. I don't hang out at my computer 24/7 just waiting to reply to everyone's posts the minute they are posted. Give us more time, and you'll probably get the responses you want.

 

[Len]

The 'Not caring' psychology is an inspiration to all of us at social phobia world. All we need to do is say 'Why do I care so much?' and then most of our phobias will just disappear.

eckoz - You know at the point where you felt you had to reply because nobody was responding to your post. Why didn't you just harness the power of the 'Why do I care?' mantra and just not care thus ignoring the whole situation. Then you may have had some more positive responses.

Anyway, good luck with getting over your problems and I hope you change your mind and share some more positive posts with us here.

Yours sincerely
Tom Cruise Fan

 

[jeana1346]

treply to eckoz

I just joined and I like what you said. maybe this will help many times in my life i have been ignored by family and friends my birthday in particular, but so what I go buy myself a birthday card and present. I even write myself notes of encouragement. I guess you could say I am my own best friend. This sight has help me because I hve been on the internet two years and I don't share but I have today more than ever.

 

[that1guy]

This site has really helped me too. It has come to help me realize that im not the only with SAD, other people have it to. Its also helped me accept the person I am. I now know that people feel the same way as me during situations that I used to think that no one really cared about. and Im gettin better with the ladies so thats always a huge positive!!!

 

[Sacrament]

Yours sincerely
Tom Cruise Fan

Are you serious?

 

[Len]

Nah but Tom is all about being positive so I thought that I should just throw that in for some amusement.