This simply doesn't feel natural to me

[da_illest101]

i don't know if anyone can relate to this but it's a frustration that i had for a while and I just randomly thought about sharing. Being the dominant person in a relationship simply doesn't feel natural to me. It's not a question of fear that the other person will leave me if I don't do what they say or I'm aiming to please it's really how I'm.

Everytime I'm dreaming or day dreaming about being in a relationship, I'm always the one being guided ( not manipulated ). Or with my ex ( from 5 years ago lol) i didn't enjoy when I was the one controlling when we were making out but loved it when she was the one in control. The girl i'm into right now is somewhat controling and that's what made me attracted to her.

Also my problem is that apparently I seem to give the first impression that I'm the man in charge but when you really get to know me it's quite the opposite. I wouldn't say I'm soft but far from being a macho man ( I would never want to be one)

Unfortunately for me what I feel natural is the opposite of the « social natural » order ::
I just want to see what people has to say about that

 

[BlackPuma]

I've actually met quite a few people that chose to be the submissive ones in a relationship. It doesn't mean that you're soft or any less of a person.

There's not really such a thing as socially naturality in todays way of life. You can see this because ''social nature'' seems to change every 7- to 10 years or so.

If you choose to be the more submissive player in a relationship, then all power to you (ironic choice of word, I know. )

 

[coyote]

so, this guy walks into a doctor's office...

he says, "doc, my arm hurts every time I hold it like this. what should I do?"

and the doctor says, "don't hold it like that."

ba dum dum