this girl likes me but.....

[lonesomeboy]

at my new share house one my flatmates seem to be taken a liking to me. i helped her out with setting up her computer, and now shes always sms me everyday, offering me food, asking me to drive her around to buy stuff or run errands, etc... i dont mind helping her out and being a friend but she is hinting at taking her out to do stuff , movies and what not but my SA skills are keeping her at bay with my invulnarable barrier Obviously she wants more than just friendship.

anyways shes cool and nice and all, buts its just that 1) her english isnt good so communication is a problem and 2) Iam just not attracted to her at all.
god i must sound like a superficial snob but I cant help it.
I dont know what to do, I really dont want to hurt her feelings. I just want to be friends.

 

[redlady]

You could keep saying whenever she asks you to do these things - "Do you want to go as friends" I don't know, could you bring yourself to be direct...that's a hard thing to do i know. Perhaps you could just keep telling her that you are busy ??

 

[Lightcloud]

I know this sounds incredibly awful and insensitive, but it might be best if you don't do as much with/for her anymore, because it's obvious she's getting the wrong impression. Perhaps you could even tell her, but in reality I realize that would be pretty awkward. Hmm. Maybe just roll with it for now. Or you could just tell her at some point you already have a g/f, it would be like a white lie.

 

[allanboy]

2) Iam just not attracted to her at all.

I´d say to go for it, until i read this. Well, if you dont want anything with her, really, if she confronts you(asking you to date her, not fight her to death), i donno, tell her you got something in your head, just want to be friends, that kind of thing, i´m no speacialist in this matter.

 

[lonesomeboy]

how do u "let her down gently" ? i absolutely suck at these type of talks with ppl. its like a scene from OC or something. i usually do what I do best, hide and avoid.

 

[Lightcloud]

Let her down gently by telling her you're seeing someone else.

 

[young]

2) Iam just not attracted to her at all.
god i must sound like a superficial snob but I cant help it.

That's not being superficial. That's being realistic. You have to be attracted to your mate. Otherwise you'd just be lying to yourself. And to her.