The solution?

The other day I was reading 'Frankenstein' by Mary Shelley. It seems to me the monster is somewhat like us. An outsider, different, perhaps scorned by society. It made me think whether it had any choice. This is what I came up with:

1. The monster was angry. It vented by becoming malicious and a murderer. Instead it should have used all that anger for the good of society. Become virtuous.

2. It hated what it was. It hated itself. Instead it should have loved itself for what it was.

3. It tried to become human and normal. Instead it should have stayed itself and accepted that.

So, I think, people who are outsiders, different, minorities etc. should NOT hate everyone, give everone the blame, seperate themselves from others and society, become malicious, and hate themselves or try and become like others i.e. 'normal', but instead become virtuous, love themselves exactly as they are and stay who they are, not become like others...we should stay ourselves and find recognition by way of outsider status, it's others that need to change their perception of social anxiety and accept us for who we are: My mantra: Love yourself, be yourself and don't be destructive of yourself or others...make the majority change their perception of the minority. Not assimilation, not seperatism either, but rather us staying the same (except improving stuff like social skills) and making majority accept us.

Do you get where i'm going at here?
 

Goriot

Member
I agree with you.

Just don't expect anybody else to acknowledge your existence just because you're being a nice person. Do it for your own peace of mind and for that alone. When somebody decides that they can walk all over you, accept it as a flaw in their character and not the problem of you or society in general and just keep at it.

Easier said than done, but acceptance of ourselves and the pursuit of niceness is hopefully something we're all aiming for.

Niceness is nice.
 

danstelter

Well-known member
That's definitely the right way to go! But, I would take it one step further and try to develop your skills in whatever it is that you think you are skilled it and show off those skills to others. Others will notice, and then will want you in their lives. This may be a bit shallow on their part, but hey, people will look up to you for taking the steps that you took and sharing yourself with the world!
 
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