the other night didn't go so well

[lildreamer721]

So, remember how i told y'all about that girl Michelle I had to go out with that makes me uncomfortable? Well, it didn't go so well. I had a panic attack on the way to their house and started crying then I nearly had another one before she showed up but my bf calmed me down for the time being. We were hungry so THEY decided to go KFC. My only choices were KFC or Weinerschnitzel. my bf was the only one who asked me what I really wanted but i felt bad saying all 4 of them couldn't go to KFC just because I didn't want to so off to KFC it was. By the time we got there I just didn't care anymore and told my bf to order for me. I was about ready to burst into tears and had to go outside. My bf said he'd take me wherever i needed to go after we ate so unfortunately I had to go back inside. Everyone was really nice to me except Michelle. She wasn't mean she just didn't say a word to me. She never does. She makes me feel so invisible. It's like she wants to be the only girl there and resents me because she isnt. She makes everything about her too. We were talking about spiders and my bf was like "she hates spiders" and Michelle is like "no I dont" as if he'd really be talking about her. So anyway, after dinner things were alright. still uncomfortable but no panic attacks or crying. I was a little more outgoing but I still really don't like this girl.

 

[tommydog]

hi lildreamer721.

atleast your putting in the effort.

dont take this the wrong way, but reading the second part of your post, isnt the way your judging michelle, pulling apart her behaviour, and critisizing her for not speaking to you exactly the types of behaviours you would like others to refrain from toward you ?

she may not speak to you because she is shy, or, she may not speak to you because you make her feel awkward as a result of you anxiety or some other reason.

 

[lildreamer721]

it's not even that she doesn't talk to me. I don't really talk to her so I can't blame her for that...she just makes me so invisble, ignoring me completely and making everything about her. Based on her actions, I get the feeling she doesn't like me and well, my intuition is usually right on. Anyway, i'll keep trying to make some sort of progress with her but it's not easy.

 

[4myself]

If she is self obsessed then probably the only person she does like is herself, how does she treat the guys?.

I also second tommy_15, good on you for trying!.

 

[lildreamer721]

she's all outgoing and friendly with the guys. She's a little more quiet around my boyfriend because she doesn't know him as well as the other two but she's still friendly towards him. It's not like she's shy or anything...

 

[logitechdog]

so she doesnt talk to you and you don't talk to her and u feel like she's ignoring you!?
and ignoring you 'do u mean she ignores you when u try and talk to her' are u asking her normal thing's or throwing across your mental state or body language in a way that make's her not want to talk to you.

Maybe she's just scared that she will say something that might make u panic and start crying

 

[lildreamer721]

ah nevermind. it's hard to explain. I guess you just have to be there to understand what I mean.

 

[LeapFrog]

@lildreamer721: I know exactly what you mean. I've been around those kinds of people, and I know how unpleasant they can be. For me personally, I hated the fact that when I was with them, they didn't even bother to talk to me. I was invisible. So I came to the conclusion that it was better for me to not be around them anymore. Screw them.

And to end on a happier note, have a Merry Christmas!