the number 1 reason I am alone...

no1

Banned
The number 1 reason I am alone might sound weird to you all.. but I believe the reason is simply because I am alone. More specifically though.. because I have had a history of being alone. I think being alone especially during crucial times in childhood made me miss a lot of once in a lifetime opportunities, and especially to learn to socialize. It's pretty much I guess my lack of social skills and "maturity" in some areas (where of course I wasn't really able to develop much, ie social maturity).

And of course girls wouldn't give a chance to someone who's had or has SA.

Do you understand that it's harder to gain social skills now as an adult, where everybody might expect you to be "mature" and "socially adept" already because I was supposed to learn that in my younger years. Nobody would think they have the time to deal with such a person. In fact I may be irreversably damaged due to the imbalances in my development (kinda like a retarded development). Something went wrong. And this is nature you CANNOT f*ck with nature unless God (or whatever) creates a miracle.

People just do not understand me, instead they get all frustrated (which I can sympathize with) but they get all.. condescending. As if I wasn't even a human being myself, or not one of their kind. All I would need really is a little social support, and someone to kind of stick with me.

But no because anyone who is not a woman that needs anything like food or water, is a needy selfish person who doesn't deserve life because women can just be EVIL like that. So are the men but I guess some of the men can actually sympathize since they too may go through some of the same hardships (although maybe differently), or may be better able to understand our kind. Whereas the women like to (well I hope not but this is what I see in our media) just blame everything on men and go and do whatever the hell they want and call it "freedom" or "women's liberation".

gawd Im so messd up. I'm sorry if I offended anyone especially the women because I know some woman (who might even be just the same) might say something like "not all women are the same, except for me... you're just mad because you are going to die a lonely person because natural selection and God himself says so". (evil pimp laughing in the background).
 

pinkputter

Well-known member
I know its really hard. I think you made a good observation because most people dont just befriend some one- why? They dont need some one who is going to be dependent on them. You have to have connections with people, already existing friendships, to make MORE friendships. Its a weird concept, but thats just how it works. People see loners as a weakness, or personality flaw, so they steer away from them. Join a club or do a hobby to meet people (bars will make you feel lonely and out of place if you go there by yourself- at least LOOKING to meet people.. its more fun if you have a group of established friends and go later).. or do you work? Go to school? Find connections there... start doing things outside the office/school and you will begin to meet people outside and mutual friends.

This usually works for people- you have to start from the ground up. If this isnt you, let me know, but there IS A WAY... you just have to find one.Hope that helped...
 
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