Supportive Relationships

[IceLad]

I don't think I have anyone that I can share my everyday problems with (including problems that are not social anxiety related).

I've never got along with my sibling, and now that we are adults, we are about as close as the UK is to New Zealand. My mum also told me, when I was growing up, not to share my problems with her, as she'll only end up worrying!! In fact, I felt guilty for sharing problems with her and when I did, I usually ended up feeling worse. The counsellor I saw was the only person I could readily end up sharing my problems with.

As a result, I've bottled up my feelings for years and years, and I find it very hard to trust anyone. So at the present, I really lack supportive relationships.

Has anyone else learnt to bottle up their feelings and where do you stand in terms of supportive relationships. Did you have many growing up/ have you got many now?

:?

 

[Boundless]

When i was younger and my dad was busy having affairs,my mum wasnt really interested either so my problems were mine alone,didnt trust my older sister with my feelings/problems 1 bit as she would just make fun of me so for years my problems boiled away inside of me untill recently,i met a girl last year and she has been very supportive and helped me a great deal,i love her a lot and im greatfull i have her support.She also has mine when ever she requires it so it works both ways.

 

[crazyfairyx]

I had a lot of problems growing up, and I didn't have anyone to talk to because my mum had her own problems with divorcing my dad, and she was so used to being the 'good little housewife' that she went a bit crazy for a while cos she didn't know how to handle being a single mum. Could never really talk to my siblings either, as I have two sisters and they have always been closer to each other than they are with me. Plus, when I did confide in my friends and family when some bad things happened to me when I was 14 none of them believed me. This all taught me to not trust people.

I now have a boyfriend who I can talk to, it's still difficult sometimes confiding in him, because even though I know he would never accuse me of lying, a little voice in the back of my mind refuses to believe that.

Plus I know have some great friends who listen to me, who I also appreciate sooo much.

Naomi x

 

[flux]

My parents are social phobics (or something), they never leave the house (except when they have to, like for work or grocery shopping), they avoid company and act wierd around people.
As I was growing up they were overprotective but ignored my feelings. They kept me in the house and away from people, even when I wanted to go outside or talk to someone. I don't think I would have had SA if they were "normal".

I tried to confide in my mom as a child, but I didn't get much out of it, since she wasn't doing well herself she really didn't know how to help me and ended up yelling at me for feeling bad. :?

I have a great brother, (well I have two, but I don't really know the other one) and I feel I can confide in him. I'm starting to feel I can trust people now.

I'm not gonna have SA all my life, this will pass.

 

[triceratops]

I find it really hard to trust people and to confide in them even when ive had relationships. I think because of my social anxiety I had people seeing me as weak so I always have to act as if everything is ok. It seems pointless to worry people with my problems anyway since there my problems I should be the one sorting them out. 8O