social/societies constructions

[thor01]

Ive been thinking just now, how much social/societies constructed ideas could contribute to more anxiety, overall. If we could be fully comfortable with our own ideas and what we feel is right for us, or what we at least think is right for us, without thinking about what most people, or society would say, wouldn't certain aspects of life be easier?
I mean, I don't feel I care what people would think anymore. And I know what I want/don't want most of the time. But sometimes I still feel subcosciously at the back of my head theres something that makes me consider what other people would say is right and stuff. So I mean, if we were to be COMPLETELY clear of this.
If you did something you wanted to do, and felt ok, and then read about people saying that that thing was bad for you or was bad in general, you might start feeling bad or anxious about it yourself, just because of an implanted thought or belief when otherwise you were fine. Does this make sense?

 

[danstelter]

Yes it does, and there are probably an infinite number of things that society constructs which make us more anxious.

One example for me is not fitting the corporate mold. When I went out there, I didn't care how or when things got done, as long as they were done and done well. Many bosses I had wanted things done one way, their way, and even if it got done in a similar way in the same amount of time, they would still get angry with me. Or, everything had to be done according to some "procedure" or "rule." If I came up with my own way of doing things, well that was the wrong way.

A lot of people take issue and think there is something fundamentally wrong with those who don't fit the corporate mold. What I learned is that I will never be a "company man" - the guy who can spout off the whole policy manual word for word.

In my mind, corporate jobs are demeaning, focused on control, and they try to get as much out of you as possible for the least possible return. So, I've decided that I'm going to become an entrepreneur, which is not what a lot of people do. But, it's an equally respectable means to an end. It's just that everyone thinks that "having a job" is what you're supposed to do because that's what's pounded into our heads from day one.

I'll stop writing - I'm starting to get pissed here, but thanks for the topic.