Social anxiety insight

[Jbird]

I thought some people might find this reflection about social anxiety to be insightful: "If you're struggling with shyness or social anxiety, think about what it is that causes your social discomfort. Is it fear of negative judgment? Rejection? That people won't like you? That you're not interesting enough? There are many reasons people become socially uneasy. However, nearly all the reasons are simply a reflection of the desire to avoid some sort of body energy that arises in social situations - perhaps nervousness, awkwardness, insecurity, or some other unwanted feeling. Whatever that feeling is for you, ask yourself this question: Would you have a social anxiety problem if you knew you could handle that feeling? Do you think a shy person would remain shy for long if they learned to enjoy the feeling of approaching people? Learn to get comfortable with the inner sensations that you're now avoiding, and your social anxiety will soon disappear." (source: mc2method.com/anxiety). This is an interesting observation, as it really suggests the opposite of how most people approach social anxiety (by trying to eliminate the feeling first).

 

[signs05]

Hi

I don't understand the message intended. Or rather, I don't understand what is different between it and the normal approach to overcoming social phobia?

It is definately about de-sensitising oneself through exposure. However, exposure training is often easier said than done.

 

[Joker]

I took it to mean that instead of trying to eliminate feelings that bring about anxiety, one should learn to embrace those feelings.

Obviously easier said than done!

 

[JamesMorgan]

Jbird

That was very thoughtful and yes it is insightful.

Our feelings can overwhelm us can't they? So powerful when our heart's racing and we're all nervous. These internal feelings or inner sensations are a banquet for anyone who really wants to overcome their anxiety problems. Because if they learn to handle them and be alright at these times, what else is there to make us afraid?

I was about to go to this party once and i was bricking it, after that initial sensation, i relaxed and thought, i have nothing left to fear, i overcame it. Its so liberating doing this. Easier said than done right. I'd rather do it, and enjoy the feeling of overcoming it from the inside.

James