SOCIAL ANXIETY HELP FOR MY SON

cama

cama

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My son [16] thinks he may have social anxiety. He was teased at school and eventually wouldn,t go at all, which was the start of it. For the past 3/4 years he has just stayed in his room most of the time, not going out as he has lost all his friends. He is okay with adults but finds it impossible with others his own age. He wants to join the RAF this year, but is afraid that once he gets there with the others he will not be able to cope. I have suggested visiting our doctor, is that right or is there anything else we can do?
 
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triceratops

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Hey, not sure if this helps but my stepdad used to be a really shy person when he was younger and got builled a lot but ended up going into the raf and when he came out he was a different person as it did wonders to his confidence prob because it makes you a stronger person.Im not saying this would work for your son but it had a postive effect on my stepdad.

Yeah if he thinks he has social anxiety and then its worth seeing the doctor their trained in this sort of thing. They can also give you medication for your son to help cope with the anxiety.
 
Falcon

Falcon

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cama said:
My son [16] thinks he may have social anxiety. He was teased at school and eventually wouldn,t go at all, which was the start of it. For the past 3/4 years he has just stayed in his room most of the time, not going out as he has lost all his friends. He is okay with adults but finds it impossible with others his own age. He wants to join the RAF this year, but is afraid that once he gets there with the others he will not be able to cope. I have suggested visiting our doctor, is that right or is there anything else we can do?
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Hi cama, it's great you are so supportive of your son. If he has stayed in his room most of the time for 3 yrs then I think his concerns about coping in the RAF are valid. Before he thinks about joining a high stress situation like an armed forces boot camp, he needs to get his anxiety under control or manageable.

You should take him to a physician. It's possible that with medication and therapy from a counselor, he will beat this quickly!
 
Road_Runner46

Road_Runner46

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Falcon said:
Hi cama, it's great you are so supportive of your son. If he has stayed in his room most of the time for 3 yrs then I think his concerns about coping in the RAF are valid. Before he thinks about joining a high stress situation like an armed forces boot camp, he needs to get his anxiety under control or manageable.

You should take him to a physician. It's possible that with medication and therapy from a counselor, he will beat this quickly!
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Hi, this is "the son"

its under control and defiantly manageable for the RAF id say, its only certain things that make me nervous, an i dont think these certain things would come up to often. its also more manageable when im outside and the job is about 90% outside so.....

it has got better within the last year or so, before if i was in our living room and my aunty and uncle with there kids came in i would go up to my room as soon as i could, its easyer now.

scyth - i feal your step dads case could be the same to mine, i think the RAF will help a lot with self confidence and that should sort it out.
 
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triceratops

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Yeah go for it. I think he said it was one of the hardest thing hes had to do but in the end it made him a stronger person. good luck to you.
 
4myself

4myself

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Yep, good luck to you!. A lot of people on this site seem to want to join the defence forces, maybe we should form an SA unit. :)
 
Septor

Septor

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I never really thought of the army and sa going together very well but that probably my own perspective.Good luck Road_Runner46 on joining up.
 
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sutiono

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I definitely would encourage you to do that. Coincidentally, last year when I was still a junior in high school I also considered about joining the Air Force because I saw it as a chance to improve myself.Once you challenge yourself and succeed, you would feel much more confident. Last week we were watching a video in a class and the same students who never care about their schoolwork talked and played around when the video was playing. I was hoping that the teacher would tell them to shut up, but he didnt. I realized that everyone was paying attention to the video except these four people. I thought that everyone was really annoyed with them but no one dared to say anything. Neither did I. I hesistated for a second, and then one of them did something stupid and the others laughed. I was so mad that the words just came out from my mouth without me realizing it. My heart was pounding so fast and I was scared what I was going to happen. But amazingly they did not say anything back to me and stayed quieter through the rest of the movie. Although I am still not always confident, I have some courage to speak up for myself now. That is why I believe joining the military would help you. They are going to give you a lot of challenge, but you will grow stronger and more confident. Good luck. Please post here when you get back from boot camp.
 
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