shellfish... i mean selfish

[monkeyisland90]

I'm sure most of the people on this forum is more helpful and caring to others then being selfish but sometimes i read on here where people are upset that they can't go partying, sex, meeting that dream girl/guy, or that perfect job and I'm thinking maybe that's some of the cause for there SA and they are focusing on themselves too much and when it comes to interacting with people it's like they're focusing on what they don't get out of it or what they FEEL .. I only bring this up because i was thinking back when i was in third grade and that whole year i was like sincerely helpful and caring towards my classmates and next thing you know in 4th grade, i had like instant friends and was actually quite happy and social... But once i stopped focusing on others and was focusing more on my needs and my wants I started feeling happy only temporarily and classmates picked up on that also and just disconnected... I might just have to revert to being a third grader again perhaps..lol

 

[Violaine]

Even though I am really soft hearted and have been taken advantage of a lot of times, I am still very self absorbed. A therapist I went to told me that the reason I wasn't connecting to people is because I tend to be more concerned about myself and what they think of me then being interested in the person. And it's like okay, now can you tell me how to get out of my head so I can focus!!

 

[Neph]

heck

i just try and be myself

i hate forcing myself to act when it is not needed