She likes me...What do i do?

[Nital]

So I havent had the best social skills all my life, i've had trouble making and keeping friends, and bouts of depression and isolation. However i have been getting better in recent years and feeling better about my situation. One thing that has bothered me is my inability to get involved with girls. I've never had a girlfriend, and was always too scared to talk to girls in highschool.

Recently its been brought to my attention that a girl in my circle of friends that i hangout with daily likes me. Her and I have been progressing nicely over the last few weeks with the help of our friend, who pretty much coaches both of us since we're too shy to talk to each other about our actual feelings.

Now we're at the point where I sleep in her bed all the time and we even made out. It seems that we only really get close or show affection when we're drunk however, and when we're both sober it doesnt seem like she likes me, and i don't know what to say to her. Because of this, i get insecure and feel like she doesnt like me anymore. Furthermore, it feels like our relationship is mostly physical at this point(no sex) because we don't really have engaging conversations, more like small talk. I expressed this to our friend and she tries to reassure me by saying its normal to start out that way, and that I'm overanalyzing the situation, but I get the feeling shes just trying to make me feel better.

Does it sound like this is normal or that it's moving in the right direction? I really don't want to screw this one up because i've screwed up every opportunity i had with any girl before, but time is running out since i'll be leaving for school soon. Not that i wont be visiting from time to time, but who knows if she'll still like me.

 

[Nital]

come on, no advice?

 

[Quixote]

come on, no advice?

Well, not. But if you ever break up with her, then proceed to lose all your friends and become a depressed and hopeless loner, then ask again: I might have some advice for coping with *that* kind of situation

 

[wonderful]

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come on be a man!!


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[iamantisocial]

I expressed this to our friend and she tries to reassure me by saying its normal to start out that way, and that I'm overanalyzing the situation, but I get the feeling shes just trying to make me feel better.

That is a fatal mistake. Do not overanalyze. Overanalysis in ANYTHING leads to failure.

Trust your instincts and play by them. Your brain thinks how to do this, how to do that... but your gut thinks something different... do what your gut thinks. Trust your guts. Your brain can be your worst enemy.


And oh... ideally speaking, it would be best to destroy all your feelings of "love" for her. I know... it might seem a little far-fetched. But that's the spot where you will most likely find yourself at... after alot of trial and error.

Your guts can be wrong too... but they are more trustworthy than your brain.

Yes its gonna be a bumpy and painful ride. I'm assuming you are between 16-18 years old... and you've still alot to learn and alot of life ahead of you.


Do not give up.


The best inventions you see right now... the internet, the car, the rocket ship, etc... were all created through a painful process of trial and error.


drill that into your head.


And good luck!!!






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[Nital]

Thanks Antisocial, Im not really sure whats my gut feeling and what my brain is saying really. At this point, we've gone on a few dates and done some stuff in bed, but it really seems like were mostly friends who like to screw around. Im still somewhat shy around her because i know that she likes me. I've been confused for a while as to why she likes me, because it doesnt seem like we're the right type for each other, but so far it doesnt seem like she has any problems. Ive been thinking about talking to her about some of these things, but i guess i'll probably just wait it out for a little bit because i don't want to screw up another opportunity. Also im back in school now so i wont get to see her to often so that just complicates matters.