Sex and Social Phobia

[winnipegjets]

I was curious to know if people with social phobia experience a higher than normal sex drive. I find sex more pleasurable because of my social anxiety. Sex was something I was really good at. I enjoy women. All women. I enjoy looking at their bodies, and pleasuring them. I was never good at asking girls out or going on dates, but when it came down to "bedroom playtime", I was second to none. I was also blessed with a larger than average "anatomy". I have often received complients for it.


I was wondering if the reverse can be true. Are there people who are more comfortable on dates than "doing the nasty"? One of my friends suffers social anxiety to a lesser extent, and he is the same way as myself. Is your social anxiety better or worse during sex, and has social phobia made your sexual appetite unquenchable?

 

[redneck]

there is some truth in it. A few years ago,I have read in some Polish paper a report on shyness and how this obstacle restricts life and its aspects' of people who suffers from that disorder . it stems from the article that generally Shy people are not shy in bed which can apply to me as well.When They (we) already get that far to be with woman very close, we are "loosing ourself" and go with the flow.Some times of course i got nervous ( person you do not know to much and pressure to perform which resulted in premature ejaculaction In addition Big problem would be communicating with your partner, if you have one, But as we all struggle to communicate it could affect quality of would-be performance. Good sex=good communication
anyway, its been ages when i practised last time. I am in the phase of total chastity and does not look anything gonna change it soon. I am struggling severely with scarying social interactions and the only opportunity for me to meet a woman to have sex with was a trip to brothel 6 months ago ( yes, I know-it is kind of embarrassement to me anyway)Life is hard.

 

[kyle]

I am struggling severely with scarying social interactions and the only opportunity for me to meet a woman to have sex with was a trip to brothel 6 months ago ( yes, I know-it is kind of embarrassement to me anyway)Life is hard.

Appearantly they did a report on clients of prostitutes in the 80's, and found that as many of 50% of the men prostitutes "serviced" were described as moderately to extremely shy. I can relate to this, as I have to admit that I have used escorts in the past. It's weird in the sense that I used them for two purposes:

1. to satisfy my "urges"
2. self-confidence.

I would always get complimented, since I was good at sex, I was attractive to the girls, and they enjoyed being with me. It always is a huge boost to your ego when a girl tells you "you're so hot why don't you have a girlfriend", etc, even though she probably is servicing clients that can be described as "pigs" LOL.

 

[Day_Tripper]

I was never good at asking girls out or going on dates, but when it came down to "bedroom playtime", I was second to none.

If you were able to get that far, I doubt you have it as bad as a lot of us.

Anyway, I find myself a lot pickier than a lot of guys. When I see pics like Pam Anderson or Jessica Beil, it doesn't really do much for me. I have trouble seeing girls as "hot", but I can still become attracted them, based on her face. I'm more like "she's freaking beautiful" as opposed to "she has nice boobs"

 

[SocialRetahd]

she probably is servicing clients that can be described as "pigs" LOL.

Thats pretty fucking mean to refer to people like that. They can't help or change their exterior. You just got very lucky.

 

[FaymeLevy]

I've never gotten far enough to find out! I panic and leave when a guy looks at me! lol

 

[Thelema]

I don't think I have more sexual urges than the next guy. The fact that the shy usually have a hard time getting in a relationship in the first place means you have more sexual urges pent up. So we turn in to a sexual tyrannosaurus rex...hooray for us

 

[Emma]

It doesn't interest me at all...i feel nothing...not that I have much experience at all....maybe he was the wrong person for me? :?

 

[Abalone]

I can't speak for all "involuntary virgins", but this one has a lot of pent-up desire, which masturbation doesn't really relieve. Sexual thoughts very frequently. A lot of pent-up frustration, too, which I'm worried might become a problem if I ever actually do get into a relationship. (It's already a problem in that I'm usually in quite a foul mood.)

Is there a "breaking point", I wonder, and what happens when it is reached?

 

[lonely_world]

No, but put in a good video and things could change !

 

[okkamsrazor]

No, but put in a good video and things could change !

You mean, like "Dirty Dancing" for example?

 

[rado31]

:? my sexual drive is enormous, and i m avoidant (get panicky in a communication) , so really dont know wheter i break or what