self conscious/parents/other people

[thor01]

Does anyone else here find that with hightened anxiety comes the kind of self conscious worry, where you worry that you are becoming like your parents in any way? Or anyone else you look at and think I hope I dont become like them? haha. I know deep down I am not them and am me! And are different to them. But does anyone find that high anxiety can shake you up to a point where you dont feel your idently as strongly and the anxiety attaches itself to the worry of being like these people you dont want to be like?

Or also to do with age? Like you start to worry that you're losing your self as you age? A very silly idea and I know its not happening but do you find anxiety can make you worry about silly things like this at times?
I hate it because Ive actually grown to like who and how I am and it gets in the way of that haha.

 

[Minty]

Hmm. I've always had a strong sense of identity and that's probably because I behave differently from most of the people around me. I am, however, subconsciously ashamed of my identity and that's why I hide from the world. I even go through bouts of deleting my profiles online and taking down my pictures. I hate things that remind me of, well...me. Since I've acknowledged that about myself, I've started to fight that urge and have been less avoidant about some things. Like, in the past, I would not have participated in a forum the way I do here. I would have lurked a lot.

Even though I behave differently from my parents (they're passive, I'm rather confrontational) our issues are the same. We all struggle with some level of anxiety and avoidance. My dad less so than me and my mom because he has a strong sense of duty and doesn't avoid things like work or visiting his family members. But really, anxiety is not a part of our identities. It's something were suffering from like the flu. When it boils down to it, were all unique. So I guess my answer to your question is no. I don't worry about it.

 

[da_illest101]

personally I would love to be like my parents instead of me. they are great people who sacrificed a lot for me and my sister. If I could be half the person my mom or dad is i know i'll be just fine. What i have ever done, i'm just a selfish spoiled brat

 

[danstelter]

I know that I've worried about being the creepy or lonely old guy/friend in the past. I've seen people like that who are older and lonely and it's scary.