marinko
Member
Hi, I'm new to the forum.
I crawled out of social anxiety, shyness, and then shyness with women. It took a lot of time, mostly wasted, until the last few years of real change. I'm 35 years old now, been married, have a son, and recently broke up with a girlfriend, because it was time to move on.
Reading this forum so far has reminded me of how much I've gone through. If I were to reply to some of the posts I've read, a lot of people might not like my replies. When we're afraid, angry, frustrated, or in pain, we often resist the very answer we need, which is why it seems impossible or so difficult to overcome anxiety.
It makes me cry reading some of these posts, because I know what it feels like to feel so trapped, hopeless, victimized, exhausted, and without a hope for real love.
I hope I'll be welcomed by you, while I read to remember and understand the things I did to succeed. My general rule is to never give someone advice unless they are genuinely asking for it. Otherwise, when a person is talking about their suffering, they don't really want a solution yet. Sometimes, we need to take the time to just let ourselves feel hurt and frustrated. That's perfectly ok. It actually needs to happen. We deserve the time to cry, vent, and feel our emotions.
I have a website on this topic, but, frankly, after reading some of these posts, I'm not sure how useful it would be. There is a whole lot more which I could write, in much more detail that might be useful to some people. Your perspectives on it would absolutely be appreciated.
Thanks for reading and caring.
I crawled out of social anxiety, shyness, and then shyness with women. It took a lot of time, mostly wasted, until the last few years of real change. I'm 35 years old now, been married, have a son, and recently broke up with a girlfriend, because it was time to move on.
Reading this forum so far has reminded me of how much I've gone through. If I were to reply to some of the posts I've read, a lot of people might not like my replies. When we're afraid, angry, frustrated, or in pain, we often resist the very answer we need, which is why it seems impossible or so difficult to overcome anxiety.
It makes me cry reading some of these posts, because I know what it feels like to feel so trapped, hopeless, victimized, exhausted, and without a hope for real love.
I hope I'll be welcomed by you, while I read to remember and understand the things I did to succeed. My general rule is to never give someone advice unless they are genuinely asking for it. Otherwise, when a person is talking about their suffering, they don't really want a solution yet. Sometimes, we need to take the time to just let ourselves feel hurt and frustrated. That's perfectly ok. It actually needs to happen. We deserve the time to cry, vent, and feel our emotions.
I have a website on this topic, but, frankly, after reading some of these posts, I'm not sure how useful it would be. There is a whole lot more which I could write, in much more detail that might be useful to some people. Your perspectives on it would absolutely be appreciated.
Thanks for reading and caring.
