Saying "risky" things

[Snerkable]

This is one of the hardest things for me to do around other people. Saying things that are (by my judgement) potentially rash or "pressing" for fear of someone either being offended and hence pissed off at me, or someone challenging my assertion and saying something funny back and humiliating me. This has made it so i've installed sort of "parameters" around my personality that I'm too afraid to venture outside of unless i'm in comfortable company i.e. my long time friends or family whose opinion of me I know won't change or become offensive. I don't know about y'all, but it's gotten to the point where my mind just goes blank and I say the most retarded boring stuff in response to everyone elses funny and confident responses..

like for instance, tonight my room mate's fraternity brothers were over and this one guy just started talking to me about how he shits faster than he pisses... WHAT THE HELL DO I SAY TO THAT? I mean, the guy was just being funny and when he saw I had nothing to say he pounced like a lion on prey and just started saying all this nasty stuff and made all the other guys laugh and me feel all retarded because I was too shy to engage in that conversation... I bet they all thought I had no life or anything... I just so desperately wanted to change the conversation to ideals on transcedentialism... but alas. for some reason 20 year old college boys aren't interested in that...

 

[Infected_Malignity]

Dammit. I'm posing on my old username because of those fuckin' limits...

Anyway, yeah. I know exactly what you mean! Do you ever give the stare like you're a deer looking into a headlight? Just like... "Oh my god... What the hell can I say to this!?".

I noticed one thing that takes off the tension is taking shit a little less seriously. I mean, come on, nobody's going to remember your ridiculous response anyway, right? So now I just blurt shit out. Oddly enough, I feel entirely liberated when I can just be myself socially, because even if nobody responds well to you (which, if you're being yourself and unafraid, they'll definitely respond positively anyway), at least you know you just took the chance and said something goofy right back to them.

Even though I say it all the time on these boards, I can never, ever stress this point enough: It's ALL about the self love and acceptance. Without those two things, you can just forget it - you'll be shy forever!

 

[Thelema]

You say to that "I shit solid bricks and use them to beat hobos to death, on the weekends"

 

[Doomed2Die]

Yeah but then, who doesn't do that?

Really though, sometimes there is nothing to say. Try not to beat yourself up over it.

Maybe hang out with another group somehow? I cannot help much since I was pretty much the same in college. Also I agree with what Infected said.