Saying NO!

[IceLad]

I'm in a large group at work, and they've decided to go on a night out in a few weeks time.

I'm adamant that I don't want to go- I'm not ready to tackle a level 10 anxiety situation like that, and I don't think I would like to even if I was free of SP.

My question is how I should decline the invitation and how honest I should be. Should I say that I'm not comfortable in such a large group (the truth), which may result in my co-workers trying to change my mind, or should I just say I'm busy and make an excuse? :?

How has everyone else dealt with these situations? Do you have trouble saying no to people?

Cheers, IceLad. 8) 8)

 

[scatmantom]

you can lie...but that will bite u in the arse at some point down the line. Like say u can go..but then fall ill on the day thus escaping the situation. However in that case people will invite you again so its probably not the best move. Saying your not comfortable with it may scare people who dont understand Anxiety and SP.

Probably not what you want to hear....but I think you should go, Ive been to a few work dos will full staff so about 200 people and altho i was scared I actually enjoyed it.

Let us know what u decided to do!

 

[turtlegirl]

I'd go once but if they gave me a hard time during the event, I'd have no problem saying "hell no" to future invites. Because then I'd feel they only want me there to pick on me.

Maybe yawn throughout the event like you're really tired and haven't been sleeping well. Heck, people tell me I look tired all the time, even though that's just my normal look.

 

[Indecisive]

Big crowds are intimidating if you're anything like me, my first reaction in my head would be "NO WAY". The thought of all the new people and potential (sp?) questions and conversations overwhelm me.

Perhaps if you are comfortable with a few of them you could start hanging out with them and progress to more unknown people while you are there. What's a lot more then I could do, you asking the question and wanting to make an effort is a good start.

 

[crazyfairyx]

Personally if I really felt like I couldn't go to something like that then I would make an excuse up, doesn't have to be major, just say you'd already agreed to see a friend, or say you're ill on the day. If you tell them that you're anxious about it you'll probably get people hassling you saying 'aw come on we won't bite, you'll have fun, just try it, what you so nervous about?' ect. But if you can manage to go, even just for one drink, then you should, you never know, you might even enjoy yourself.

Hugs
Naomi x