SA Conquerers????
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Reholla
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I have wondered this same question.
When people claim theyve over come anxiety I wonder in the first place if theyve even had it. No matter how positive I try to make my attitude, sometimes I just have those hopeless days. Those days you try so hard, but nothing seems to lessen the anxiety. The process is so on going its hard sometimes to see a light at the end of the tunnel.
But supposedly Donny Osmond had social anxiety pretty bad. He went through periods of not wanting to go to social things, and said hes had numerous panic attacks. Having gone through my panic attacks, i believe if someone has reached a point of having a full blown attack, theyve definitely had anxiety. He is "cured" now, after some counseling with Psychologist Jerylinn Ross.
Also, I dont know if yall remember the guy off the season of the bachellorette, Jamie Blyth, he had a panic disorder pretty bad, and has written a book about it.
Lucinda Bassett (author of "From Panic to power") has overcome it too.
So, Ive heard of a lot of people, but never been able to sit down and talk with anyone who knows how ive been feeling and have them reassure me it can happen. That I can recover....
I do know that anxiety isn't "cured" as much as it is a process you go through. Just as it took time to work up to having an anxiety disorder, it will take time overcoming it.
When people claim theyve over come anxiety I wonder in the first place if theyve even had it. No matter how positive I try to make my attitude, sometimes I just have those hopeless days. Those days you try so hard, but nothing seems to lessen the anxiety. The process is so on going its hard sometimes to see a light at the end of the tunnel.
But supposedly Donny Osmond had social anxiety pretty bad. He went through periods of not wanting to go to social things, and said hes had numerous panic attacks. Having gone through my panic attacks, i believe if someone has reached a point of having a full blown attack, theyve definitely had anxiety. He is "cured" now, after some counseling with Psychologist Jerylinn Ross.
Also, I dont know if yall remember the guy off the season of the bachellorette, Jamie Blyth, he had a panic disorder pretty bad, and has written a book about it.
Lucinda Bassett (author of "From Panic to power") has overcome it too.
So, Ive heard of a lot of people, but never been able to sit down and talk with anyone who knows how ive been feeling and have them reassure me it can happen. That I can recover....
I do know that anxiety isn't "cured" as much as it is a process you go through. Just as it took time to work up to having an anxiety disorder, it will take time overcoming it.
I'm not over SA, but I've certainly come a long way, I had agoraphobia for two years (didn't leave the house whatsoever during that time), then for two years after that I had SA and panic disorder really badly, I would have constant panic attacks while out, or with people, would avoid any kind of social situation if possible. But I eased myself out of it, learnt how to cope. I'm now in college (something I never thought possible), I have friends (even more impossible), and I actually have a social life 8O , it's not an amazing social life lol, I'm not out every weekend, but it's enough to keep me happy.
I still get anxious and have paranoid thoughts, but I haven't had a panic attack in over a year. Maybe it'll come back and I'll have to start the healing process all over again, but I really really hope I'm on the way to becoming free from the binds of anxiety.
Just my thoughts on it
Naomi x
I still get anxious and have paranoid thoughts, but I haven't had a panic attack in over a year. Maybe it'll come back and I'll have to start the healing process all over again, but I really really hope I'm on the way to becoming free from the binds of anxiety.
Just my thoughts on it
Naomi x
Heartbeat
Active member
I don't believe people who claim they have been 'cured' had deep SP in the first place, especially when they then try to make money out of it by selling books and tapes. You can be 'cured' of simple phobias like spider phobia but SP is a much more complex disorder. I have battled it for 30 years and been conscious of my problem as SP for 15 years.
You need to accept SP as part of yourself and acknowledge there are some things you can't do as well as other people. It was liberating for me to finally understand that I don't have to do things well to be OK. Yep, so I was really crap at talking to that person at the office morning tea. So what... I can't hold a dinner party - so what - do I have to? I blushed really badly - so what.
The free things I've found that help are 'exercise till you sweat' (that can be walking round the clothesline if you can't go outside!) and meditation and/or yoga.
The most important thing is to force yourself to do things (like get a job, go to uni, walk outside - whatever point you are at), and get some help to manage it. Talk to the school, uni or work counsellor, pay a therapist, talk to a phone help line, confide in a friend, go through a hospital anxiety disorder clinic, go to a meditation group - do whatever you can. Every day you learn something new, and you slowly improve.
You need to accept SP as part of yourself and acknowledge there are some things you can't do as well as other people. It was liberating for me to finally understand that I don't have to do things well to be OK. Yep, so I was really crap at talking to that person at the office morning tea. So what... I can't hold a dinner party - so what - do I have to? I blushed really badly - so what.
The free things I've found that help are 'exercise till you sweat' (that can be walking round the clothesline if you can't go outside!) and meditation and/or yoga.
The most important thing is to force yourself to do things (like get a job, go to uni, walk outside - whatever point you are at), and get some help to manage it. Talk to the school, uni or work counsellor, pay a therapist, talk to a phone help line, confide in a friend, go through a hospital anxiety disorder clinic, go to a meditation group - do whatever you can. Every day you learn something new, and you slowly improve.
Evanescent1980
Member
I agree with Heartbeat. You have to force yourself to do things. That is the one and only way out. And therein lies the problem. Most of us prefer to take the easy way out, and avoid any discomfort. You have to stop, and think – where does that path lead you? Doesn’t the thought of being in your 40’s and still living with your parents scare you enough? What really helped me was the realization that as much as I hated to do something, ultimately the alternative consequences of not doing it were twice as bad.
You need to come up with a set of goals you want to accomplish, and actually go through with them. The worst possible thing one can do, is sit idly and wait for who knows what, because that’s just asking for depression. Start of easy with things that don’t require social contact, but will improve your self-esteem. Learn how to play an instrument (guitar, piano, or whatever), start lifting weights, learn another language. You’ll be amazed, how each new skill you learn improves your self-image, plus once you do start reaching out, you have something to talk about.
I for one am surprised at the number of people here, that claim they dropped college because of SA. If anything SA students should be doing better, because it’s not like we’re so busy hanging out with our friends that we can’t study… To tell you the truth, if you’re commuting, you can pretty much go through the entire college experience, with hardly ever having to speak to another person (as pathetic as it may sound). And if you go into a technical field, you’ll only end up doing 2-3 presentations if that, and all of them will be team-work, where you can do more work, while your teammates do more talking.
Another thing Hearbeat is right on, is the part about realizing your own limitations. I for example, never enjoyed bars/clubs, and I know I never will. That is something I accepted, and it really doesn’t bother me anymore (even if my friends think it’s weird). There are tons of other ways one can spend their free time. You could say, that I may be missing out on meeting someone special that way. That actually doesn’t worry me at all, because I know, the kind of person I’d find emotionally attractive wouldn’t be hanging out in a club in the first place.
You need to come up with a set of goals you want to accomplish, and actually go through with them. The worst possible thing one can do, is sit idly and wait for who knows what, because that’s just asking for depression. Start of easy with things that don’t require social contact, but will improve your self-esteem. Learn how to play an instrument (guitar, piano, or whatever), start lifting weights, learn another language. You’ll be amazed, how each new skill you learn improves your self-image, plus once you do start reaching out, you have something to talk about.
I for one am surprised at the number of people here, that claim they dropped college because of SA. If anything SA students should be doing better, because it’s not like we’re so busy hanging out with our friends that we can’t study… To tell you the truth, if you’re commuting, you can pretty much go through the entire college experience, with hardly ever having to speak to another person (as pathetic as it may sound). And if you go into a technical field, you’ll only end up doing 2-3 presentations if that, and all of them will be team-work, where you can do more work, while your teammates do more talking.
Another thing Hearbeat is right on, is the part about realizing your own limitations. I for example, never enjoyed bars/clubs, and I know I never will. That is something I accepted, and it really doesn’t bother me anymore (even if my friends think it’s weird). There are tons of other ways one can spend their free time. You could say, that I may be missing out on meeting someone special that way. That actually doesn’t worry me at all, because I know, the kind of person I’d find emotionally attractive wouldn’t be hanging out in a club in the first place.
endless_tension
Member
I know that I can never be cured, and I don't even want to be totally cured.
I want to get better though, and I know can learn to control it.
I want to get better though, and I know can learn to control it.
Septor
Well-known member
I don't think I will ever be cured of sa and I don't think people with really bad sa are ever cured.The trick is to learn how to control it.So it is not controlling your life.I do think I will get better but I will never be the life of the party but that does not mean I can't live a good life.
I think conquering your sa means that you learn how to control it to a degree that you can live happy and productive life.
I think conquering your sa means that you learn how to control it to a degree that you can live happy and productive life.
nerdgirl178
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I could never be cured, no one can be. I have to force myself to get out of the house, work, go to school that is the only way I can help myself.
I work at a very popular cafe in D.C. and its VERY hard but slowly I am trying to get better.
I work at a very popular cafe in D.C. and its VERY hard but slowly I am trying to get better.
Hellraising
Well-known member
I'm happy and proud to say that I am one who conquered SA. People on this site can tell you how I used to be, and I must say that I made quite a few enemies here as I was angry at them. Because I felt that no one had it worse like I did. I couldn't really find anyone else who was housebound. Some claimed that they were, but then I'd find out later that they actually could leave the house at times.
I'm 17 years old and have resumed my studies in high school. I'm 3 years late but hey, I'm getting my life back on track. Life is so much better for me now.
I just want to tell you guys not to lose hope. I have gone from what I felt as being the worst to what I am now.
Here's my email address if anyone wants to talk - [email protected]
I'm 17 years old and have resumed my studies in high school. I'm 3 years late but hey, I'm getting my life back on track. Life is so much better for me now.
I just want to tell you guys not to lose hope. I have gone from what I felt as being the worst to what I am now.
Here's my email address if anyone wants to talk - [email protected]
Reholla
Well-known member
Heartbeat said:
I agree that you have to be aware of people that take advantage of the situation you are in to make money from it. This isnt only in psychology or therapy or with any other disorder, this is just life. (Mechanics, used car salesmen are the most notrious).
But I do think there are people out there who are genuinely willing to help. I dont know how many times ive mentioned this on this website, but Lucinda Bassett I believe is one of these people. go HERE www.stresscenter.com Although she focuses more on anxiety in general, her tips are really universal. The core of our anxiety is all rooted in many similar reasons.
She herself struggled w/ anxiety for years, and during a time when there wasnt as much information. She researched all on her own, and pretty much cured herself. She believed that her anxiety happened for a reason, and she had passion to help others with this same problem. Her tape is free, except for shipping and handling. So shes not really looking to get your money. She really wants to help. Anyway, if something does cost money, but you think it would help you, dont automatically assume its a rip off b/c someones just making a profit. If their profession is helping people with anxiety, they have to make a living. It could really help you so I wouldnt deny it's affectivness.