does anyone else have major problems in relationships due to your SA? im 29 and in only my 2nd real relationship. i find myself scribbling complaints in notebooks instead of saying how i feel because i dont want to be a "bitch." i barely trust because i always feel like im not good enough so surely hell want someone else. i rarely start any sex-type stuff because im terrified ill look stupid, not be good etc. and this is with a guy ive been with (off and on, but mostly on) for 2 and a half years. i love him, he loves me, hes my best friend, and i do trust him. but my issues have always caused big problems. someone please tell me you have some of these problems too.
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it sucks! i know its stupid i feel like that! i mean, come on, like my bf is gonna think "god shes terrible at this, i wish shed quit tryin to have sex with me" i just wish id quit doubting myself. it makes him feel like i dont find him attractive, when i think my jaw hit the floor when i first saw him he was so cute, and makes me feel like **** cuz im so fd up and scared that i cant express myself
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I have a whole exercise book filled with complaints about my bf.The purpose is so that if we ever break up I can read it and remember all the bad stuff and not be sad. I put up with a lot because I feel I'll never get anyone else - it's a miracle I got anyone. After a lifetime of thinking I'm too ugly to ever get a man, I feel the price I have to pay for having one is enduring the things I hate about him. It's a terrible thing to admit, but because he has so many faults I feel more equal to him - if I had someone I had more respect for I would feel not good enough for him. I'm not a total doormat now, although I was in the beginning of the relationship. The more adoring he has become of me, the more assertive I have become with him.But there's always that voice in my head, though, warning me to not complain too much because he might find someone better looking and who is not as uptight as I am with intimate stuff.
just be careful where you keep that notebook! somehow my bf found mine, that did not end well and i still hear about it sometimes. i tried explaining that it was sorta like a journal but he was still mad, i guess i understand why. im like you, ive gotten better (the notebook was kinda old) since he got more affectionate and vocal about how he feels but of course there is still that doubt. im not pretty enough, im not fun and exciting, im boring blah blah blah. i hate how my head thinks!