girly82
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Hi Everyone
I really need advice and I am driving myself nuts. I went on a couple dates with this guy and I felt that everything was great. He is very quiet and has a hard time starting conversations first. He said he's not very social. He's a manager and really quiet with everyone else. One night he said he really missed me and the next night we slept together. He stopped us but I got aggressive and it happened later on. He hasn't dated anybody for a couple years and his last gf cheated on him. After things got a little serious with us he backed off and said things happened too fast. He said he's really scared because he's been hurt before. Now he's using the I don't want a relationship right now. I know theres nobody else and he keeps telling me has issues to work through. He won't hang out with me because hes afraid he will get into a relationship with me with all the chemistry between us. While we work I can tell theres a lot of chemistry and the way he lingers his eyes on me. I didnt see him for 2 days and when I saw him today his eyes lit up. Its like he surpressed his feelings. I am very codependent and working on my own issues with relationships. I am having a hard time accepting that its not me but him. He keeps telling me over and over it has nothing to do with me. Does this sound like social phobia with relationships? I am so insecure and depressed with everything that just happend. It just doesnt make sense. I feel that he cares a lot about me but he's afraid. Please help give me some insight!
Thanks
Girly82
I really need advice and I am driving myself nuts. I went on a couple dates with this guy and I felt that everything was great. He is very quiet and has a hard time starting conversations first. He said he's not very social. He's a manager and really quiet with everyone else. One night he said he really missed me and the next night we slept together. He stopped us but I got aggressive and it happened later on. He hasn't dated anybody for a couple years and his last gf cheated on him. After things got a little serious with us he backed off and said things happened too fast. He said he's really scared because he's been hurt before. Now he's using the I don't want a relationship right now. I know theres nobody else and he keeps telling me has issues to work through. He won't hang out with me because hes afraid he will get into a relationship with me with all the chemistry between us. While we work I can tell theres a lot of chemistry and the way he lingers his eyes on me. I didnt see him for 2 days and when I saw him today his eyes lit up. Its like he surpressed his feelings. I am very codependent and working on my own issues with relationships. I am having a hard time accepting that its not me but him. He keeps telling me over and over it has nothing to do with me. Does this sound like social phobia with relationships? I am so insecure and depressed with everything that just happend. It just doesnt make sense. I feel that he cares a lot about me but he's afraid. Please help give me some insight!
Thanks
Girly82
