Problems in college

Jone58

New member
Hey everybody! I just wanted to say some stuff about myself since this is my first post. The reason I'm here is due to that I'm freakin tired of being scared and nervous all the time. I recently started at a new college here in Missouri and I am not doin very well due partly to my social anxiety. I haven't made any freinds and I also am not doing great in classes.
As long as I can remember I have had problems with this and just thought it was a phase, but, it hasn't gone away. I get nervous and fear many situations mostly one on one social situations and sometimes in group situations. A good way to describe it is that I always feel uncomfortable around people and feel I am boring, not good enough, ugly, etc. This is ruining my life and I know almost everyboy here can relate.
I guess what I am asking for is people who have the same experiences as me and know something to change it. Thanks all!
 

Y

Well-known member
Welcome,

I got no advice to give you, cos ive been skipping classes for the last 5 years :p, and like you my biggest problem is that i cant get over the tought that i am boring, i dont think im ugly or wierd or not good enough on any other aspect but i am boring, i seriously am... And because im a perfectionist, i cant stand the fact that i suck at something, i gotta be perfect (or good at least) in every aspect. So i just stay away from society.

The only advice that i can give you is something my doctor told me , she keeps asking me "what will happen if...*add one of my fears here* happens?" and i really cant answer those questions, i started to think "What can happen worst?, Ok they think im boring, ugly, wierd, lonely, they may even call me those out loud, and so what? I wont die, its not the end of the world" this thought kinda stopped my escaping behaviour, but im still the same me around people.

So as i said before, i got no real advice for your situation, but you deserved a welcome, there you got it :), with my boring problems as an extra :p
 
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