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this_portrait

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Okay, let's attack those points one at a time:
1. I'm not going to ask you to tell me what happened (you can if you want to), but address that problem. As I said, you need some sort of closure to this problem or it will eat you alive.
2. Have you joined a club on campus? Try that and also try approaching some of your classmates. For example, after you've finished a group assignment, talk to one of your group members and ask them to hang out. They'll most likely say yes since (from what I'm told) most college students are looking for friends and will jump at the opportunity to gain another, especially when you're new.
3. You're not worthless. You're doing something important with your life right now that's going to make you successful in the future. Right now you might not know what your "purpose" is, but you will come to learn what it is in the future. Just give it time and deal with the things that are in front of you right now; that kind of heavy stuff can wait till later.

1. I've addressed it plenty of times, but it still continues to hurt me. It's getting to be unbearable.
2. This is my 4th and final year of school. I tried clubs in previous years, but they were unsuccessful for me.
3. I feel worthless because I don't interact like a normal person. I feel like no matter how hard I try, nothing I do will ever be enough for people.
 

DeadmanWalking

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1. I've addressed it plenty of times, but it still continues to hurt me. It's getting to be unbearable.
2. This is my 4th and final year of school. I tried clubs in previous years, but they were unsuccessful for me.
3. I feel worthless because I don't interact like a normal person. I feel like no matter how hard I try, nothing I do will ever be enough for people.

Okay, maybe you do need to tell me what happens because I can't help if I don't know what I'm trying to help you with.
It's your final year, as you said; right now, you need to focus on the last stretch ahead of you. Let your worries about getting friends go for right now and prepare to graduate. Once you're in your work profession, try talking to some veterans near you. It should be easier since you are surrounded by people that have the same hobbies as you, so that should give you a lot to talk about. Congrats on making it this far; it's a grand achievement worthy of praise!
"Normal" is subjective to each person. Don't try to live how others wish you to because you don't owe anyone anything. You don't have to be good enough for everyone, you just need to be good enough for you. So what you can't make friends as easily as others? Does that make you a bad person? No, it just means that you have something that you can't do as well as others; it's not a crime to have a flaw. Just accept it and try to work on it; making friends, like everything else, comes with practice, experience and failures (so don't feel bad if someone doesn't want to be your friend; it's their loss, not yours.).
 

this_portrait

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Okay, maybe you do need to tell me what happens because I can't help if I don't know what I'm trying to help you with.
It's your final year, as you said; right now, you need to focus on the last stretch ahead of you. Let your worries about getting friends go for right now and prepare to graduate. Once you're in your work profession, try talking to some veterans near you. It should be easier since you are surrounded by people that have the same hobbies as you, so that should give you a lot to talk about. Congrats on making it this far; it's a grand achievement worthy of praise!
"Normal" is subjective to each person. Don't try to live how others wish you to because you don't owe anyone anything. You don't have to be good enough for everyone, you just need to be good enough for you. So what you can't make friends as easily as others? Does that make you a bad person? No, it just means that you have something that you can't do as well as others; it's not a crime to have a flaw. Just accept it and try to work on it; making friends, like everything else, comes with practice, experience and failures (so don't feel bad if someone doesn't want to be your friend; it's their loss, not yours.).

What's happened is rather personal and I don't really want to bring it up. As for letting my worries go, I can't do that. I don't want to wait until I'm working. I'm lonely as all hell and I hate it more than anything. I want company so bad I wish I could kill for it.
 

DeadmanWalking

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What's happened is rather personal and I don't really want to bring it up. As for letting my worries go, I can't do that. I don't want to wait until I'm working. I'm lonely as all hell and I hate it more than anything. I want company so bad I wish I could kill for it.

Then, go out somewhere. Are there any events going on at your college soon? Go to one of those by yourself and approach someone there. Talk to them about the event or about their classes, you choose whatever you wish to talk about. That should get the ball rolling and, if not, move on to someone else and try again; chances are, there's someone there that will want to talk with you. Once you meet that person, ask them for their contact information at the end of the day so that you can talk with them some other time.
 

this_portrait

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Then, go out somewhere. Are there any events going on at your college soon? Go to one of those by yourself and approach someone there. Talk to them about the event or about their classes, you choose whatever you wish to talk about. That should get the ball rolling and, if not, move on to someone else and try again; chances are, there's someone there that will want to talk with you. Once you meet that person, ask them for their contact information at the end of the day so that you can talk with them some other time.

If there are any events going on, I don't know about them or am just not interested in them.
 

DeadmanWalking

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If there are any events going on, I don't know about them or am just not interested in them.

Your school mainpage should have something dedicated to the schedule of events going on in the near future; ask a teacher where you can find a list of events going on on campus. If you get really desperate, then go to any event and find someone there to talk to; that should alleviate any of the boredom you feel at the event.
 

Pookah

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Talked to my father. He just pretty much yelled the whole time. That I'm an adult and I need to stick up for myself now. -_-
 

Phoenixx

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You're displeased with me? o.o I waited until today to try and get my Chemistry homework done and didnt even look at it over the Fall Break. Now Im looking at it I dont understand how to freakin do it. I have no one to talk to to ask questions either. I hate this class so much....
^ I hate my Chemistry class too. I just looked at my pre-lab questions today and I have no clue how to even answer them. :confused: My teacher is so incredibly vague with his questions it drives me up the wall. >.<
 

this_portrait

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Your school mainpage should have something dedicated to the schedule of events going on in the near future; ask a teacher where you can find a list of events going on on campus. If you get really desperate, then go to any event and find someone there to talk to; that should alleviate any of the boredom you feel at the event.

I don't feel comfortable going to an event I have no interest in just to meet people. What am I supposed to say? "I'm not here because I want to be; I just want to meet people?" That sounds embarrassing...
 

DeadmanWalking

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I don't feel comfortable going to an event I have no interest in just to meet people. What am I supposed to say? "I'm not here because I want to be; I just want to meet people?" That sounds embarrassing...

Ask them about what they think of the event or tell them that this is your first time here (the second one may not be to your liking, but it does have a decent rate of success). I've known people who have gone to events just to meet someone; in fact, my therapist recommended that I do just that. I think it was about me just getting outside of my room and ingratiating myself in the social world.
 

WeirdyMcGee

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Ran the 10k peace race with my dad this morning. I finished in 1hr 20min and my dad finished in 1hr :)
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Great job, both of you!! :D
 

huzzah

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sometimes it's sort of weird having religious parents, I feel like I shouldn't be questioning my faith since I'll just upset my parents and they've been determined since before I was born that I'm going to be a Christian but I don't think I can force myself to believe anymore
 

DeadmanWalking

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I hate this cold; I want to get better, but there's no way in hell I'm taking that NyQuil:mad:! I also hate having crushes! My feelings are usually suppressed, but when they get loose, they come in a surge that I can't control! I become a subject to my emotions and losing control of myself is something I cannot stand! I want to tear my heart to shreds so I can stop feeling these crushes!
 
Is there any difference between regular lemonade and pink lemonade? I insist that pink lemonade tastes different (better, IMO), but my dad says I'm crazy. I'm too lazy to look it up at the moment, so I'm going to trust the smart minds at SPW to help me out.
 
Is there any difference between regular lemonade and pink lemonade? I insist that pink lemonade tastes different (better, IMO), but my dad says I'm crazy. I'm too lazy to look it up at the moment, so I'm going to trust the smart minds at SPW to help me out.

From Wikipedia, Knower of All Things:

Pink lemonade has been colored with pink food coloring and is sometimes made sweeter. Sometimes artificial flavors and colors are used. Natural sources of the pink color, which may also affect taste, include grenadine, cherry juice, red grapefruit juice, grape juice, cranberry juice, strawberry juice, pomegranate juice or other juices.
 

Phoenixx

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Is there any difference between regular lemonade and pink lemonade? I insist that pink lemonade tastes different (better, IMO), but my dad says I'm crazy. I'm too lazy to look it up at the moment, so I'm going to trust the smart minds at SPW to help me out.
^ I think pink lemonade tastes better too. I wanna say it's lemonade mixed with some sort of fruit flavoring? (Not to mention coloring as well to make it pink) Strawberries perhaps? Or maybe it's cranberries? No idea. All I know is that it tastes awesome! ::p:

Edit: Hey, I was right! :D
 
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