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[david2008]

ok soo im 17 and i guess i have this social phobia bullshit and i think i had it most of my life but its getting worst everyday.when i was in middle school i used to have about 4 friends the whole time then i got to high school and had about 2 there,now im in 11th and have none and never talk and when i do my whole convo is like "hew whats up?......have you finish mr. anderson work .... ohh ok" and thats all for the whole day if its a good day. now this new thing happing when i look down in the hallways at school and if someone comes to my table i find a reason to move away.

soo im just tired of this my whole h.s years with no friends

im not going to get meds causei heard they makepeople crazy and its addicting.

i heard getting loaded and high work then i thought about taking a valium and smoking weed before school to calm me down but havent tried it

how to stop this or atleast calm me down?
any tips? thx

 

[IDKwhatIwant]

youd better off with the meds then weed. :roll:
Im manic, and dont take any medication for it.
Its nice knowing more about myself, but Im not wanting to change who I am.

If you really want to fix the problem though, take the medication thats prescribed, and not something that you think might fix it.

JMO

 

[Tab]

i agree with the post above, you shouldn't try things you think might work. i didn't have many friends in high school either and the few i did i only saw them once a day because i never had any classes with them. it sucks when your all alone and you got no one to talk to. if you are given the chance for meds you should at least give it a try, i personally don't believe in them unless you have an extreme case of anxiety but i'd still give them a try just to see how they go.

 

[Moonie]

I never had any friends in HS. I hid out in the bathroom during lunch time all four years. And sadly, I sort of miss it. I was able to cope with my SP/Shyness better in my younger years. And, I think it allowed me to be a better student with much more creativity. I didn't have alcohol to turn to when I was in HS.

Now, whenever something nervewrecking comes up, I turn to alcohol as a way to cope. I feel much more cowardish than I did when I was young. I don't ever recommend starting. It has caused me a lot of trouble and embarrassment (a hospital stay, a smashed up car, going to an interview drunk, probably a shot liver, etc.)

Some things I recommend: Focus your energy on hobbies and doing well in school, change your diet and exercise (it will give you more confidence), talk to your counselor, try joining a club.

 

[quietlyobserving]

im not going to get meds causei heard they makepeople crazy and its addicting.

i heard getting loaded and high work then i thought about taking a valium and smoking weed before school to calm me down but havent tried it

weed and valium is addicting too, dont bother with those they'll make things worse

If you can get medication it wont hurt to try. Try taking up some hobbies or some after school work, they are easy ways to try and make new friends. I had stuff all friends in highschool, i just quietly went about my business, it sucks being lonely. I had a couple very close friends so that made it easier, but im 22 now and i miss that highschool interaction, even though i basically just watched everyone else.
Try talking online to people in your area? Maybe join a sport, take up an interest class like learning a lanuage etc? PM if you need to someone to chat to about random stuff.